The Grieving Mother

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Emily’s Story

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Remembering Emmy


“I would not move forward if it meant leaving Emmy behind. I don’t know how anyone can pretend a child never existed, take down their pictures, remove their things…No, I do not leave her behind and “move on”, I move forward, with all 5 children–one running a bit ahead…just out of sight.”

~from Today ~ Moving Forward 2/16/08

My Free ebook Devotional for Grieving Families

Download and print for yourself or for a friend by clicking below:
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Grief Posts You Should Read
A Beautiful Mess - How God can bring beauty from the ashes of your grief
Thoughts from a Grieving Mother
What We Share as Husbands and Wives – Avoiding divorce
Remembering – There comes a time when you remember with smiles instead of tears
When the Roller Coaster Begins to Slow – Grief is not a ride that ends
An Emotional Day ~ A Changing Me – Will I ever be ME again?
Going Back – Revisiting the place where my daughter died
A Day to “Celebrate” – Learning to celebrate again
Never Quite Right – Someone is always missing
Fear – The fear that follows grief
Grieving on Purpose – Sometimes you choose when you grieve
Is There Anything Worse Than This?

Things Others Should Know About Grief
Grief Is Dirty
What Can I Do?
Looking for Someone to Blame in Tragedy

Podcasts
How to Help a Grieving Friend – Interview with Girlfriendology.com

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Breastfeeding ~ The Memory of Emily
Winner of the 2009 EcoBabySteps.com Blog to Inspire

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Lord, hold my child close to You,
And if You will, I plea,
That as You hold her close to You,
She remember when I held her close to me.

~from Out of the Mouths of Babes 3/3/08

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Posts from Other Sites

Molly Piper’s Series on How To Help A Grieving Friend:
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5
Part 6
Part 7
Part 8
Part 9
Part 10
Part 11

Moment of Rose from And Sometimes Tea

Links to Grief Resources:

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Emily's memorial afghan was lovingly made by Christina of Bundled in Prayer.

 

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See Emily’s Memory Box from this ministry.

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  4. spacer Sarah G on said:

    I just want you to know, though I have never met you or your sweet baby girl that I mourn with you for the loss of her life. She is beautiful, perfect, amazing. There are no words to cover the loss of a child, but know that her story has touched me and I am better for it. Thank you for sharing her with the world, I look forward to knowing her in times to come as well. Maybe my Hope and her are playmates together… Big hugs to you mama, I am so sorry you lost your little Emily but so glad she came to you and you shared her with us.

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  5. spacer Marie on said:

    Thank you so much for sharing Emmy’s story, what a beautiful and sweet baby. Your faith is uplifting and encouraging. I can’t wait to have more time to spend reading on your site.

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  6. spacer Noelle on said:

    I want to thank you so much for sharing your story and your devotional. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. One year ago last Saturday we lost our son, Benjamin. He was my 9th. Our first was a miscarriage at 9 weeks, and we never even knew if it was a boy or girl. As hard as it was, that first experience made us realize all the more how precious life is and that we need to treasure every moment with our children. We then had a daughter and 6 sons. Last March I was 20 weeks pregnant with Benjamin and went in for a routine office visit. When they couldn’t find the heartbeat they did an ultrasound. The image of the tech looking at me and telling me she couldn’t find his heartbeat is forever etched in my mind. We found out it was a cord accident. The cord had twisted up so badly it was cinched up, depriving him of such badly-needed nutrients. The last year has been so difficult. I have prayed and remained faithful to my God, even though I couldn’t understand why he would allow this to happen. But there are so many little dates that come up that make me feel like I have made no progress at all. There was my due date, our anniversary-the day he was conceieved, Christmas-the day we told the kids we were expecting, and most recently the anniversary of the day we found out we had lost him. I have struggled with the fact that I never got to hold him, to touch him, to gaze into his precious eyes. I keep telling myself that I just need to continue praying and reading my Bible, that one day my joy would return. And it has slowly gotten easier. But then there are days when I feel so sad I have to push myself to go on. I’m sorry to lay this burden on you. As I started typing I felt I could lay my heart out to you as someone who would understand. I am excited to start with your devotional. On those days when I have felt I had nowhere to turn, I would open my Bible and not know where to go to find comfort. I have been a Christian my whole life, but I just didn’t know where to find the comfort I was looking for from God. I have new hope that your devotional and God’s Word will help me down this long road. I am so thankful to my friend for sending me a link to your site and so thankful to you for sharing about your grief. May God comfort you and bless you.

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    • spacer Amy on said:

      {{Noelle}} I understand. God understands. You hurt and that is ok. What a blessed little boy to have a mama like you. Prayers going up for your pain and may you be blessed by the ebook and God’s infinite mercy.

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  7. spacer sherri on said:

    I am crying my eyes out!!! I have never lost a child…and I hope I don’t have to..but if I do…I hope I handle it like you! Your amazing! I have had a nephew and niece die..and I am going to pass this on to my sisters! It will change their life! Your amazing and i am glad to have found your blog! spacer

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  8. spacer Latonya Richards on said:

    Oh mama!! May God bless you, keep you and comfort you! My aunt lost her twins boys(one at 3wks, other at 18 months) when I was a young girl…I never knew what pain could feel like until I became a mother. God bless you for blessing them with this child but we know she belongs to you. She is now in a place where there is no pain, no suffering, no wanting…there is nothing BUT JOY!!! Oh what wonderful joy, a place where she will greet her parents one day. LORD comfort her parents as only you know how to do. Stay bless family because you truly are…
    Crying endure for a night but JOY comes in the morning…Psalm 30:5

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  9. spacer rainie williams on said:

    your site has touched my heart!!!!!!!!!!!!
    i’ve lost the two sons who loved me in word and deed..
    rocky at 21 to a motorcycle accident
    and now ronnie 34 to suicide…
    i know that YOU KNOW how one can NEVER have CLOSURE as the world defines it and never get OVER…..the loss of a child….
    how i have survied is only god and my husb and the grace of god…
    i miss my sons MORE each dan not less..
    it’s figuring out how to live the rest of ones life on this earth without them that is the challenge..
    i am a christian and honestly….i’ve barely made it at times,..
    after the death of my second son i didn’t know who i’d be and how my faith wold be…
    i used to think i was a weak chrsitian but NOW i know i am strong in HIM….and thru it all he’s been there but honestly most of the initial first yrs after each loss i NEVER felt his presense or help…
    could you send my the free ps…for greiving moms book??
    even if it’s printed out??
    i am dyslexic and adhd and need something tangible the ;printer is no good..
    anyway..
    thank’x for what ever…
    whats the name of that song on emilie’s vidio??
    thanks…
    p.s. i have two other sons but they have never respected me or treated me well since they became adults….their biological dad systematically stole their hearts from me as they were grown ing up…
    i am so so thankful for rocky and ronnie’s love against all odds towards me..
    and i live my life but they are always on my mind and in my heart and soul…
    the scripture that says god comforts us ( you) in the same way and with the same comfort as we then can reach out in comfort and care to others…..thru lifes losses ect…that’s what keeps me going for if i couldn’t with gods strength and wisdom….comfort others who have been thru likes losses as i have then the deaths of my two sons would be for nothing…..
    rainie williams

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  10. spacer Renee on said:

    I wanted to thank you for this page. My husband and I have been coming back and reading some of the links you have posted. 2 weeks ago I gave birth to our second child. A boy, Wyatt. The night before I had been labor and delivery with contractions. The doctor told me I was not in labor and sent me home. Five hours later, Wyatt was born at home at 23 weeks in to my pregnancy. My husband caught him after calling 911. Our son was alive and passed away in the back of the ambulance. We’ve been leaning very strongly on our faith these days. Reading some of these links helps.

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    • spacer Amy on said:

      Oh, Renee, I am so sorry. You are in my prayers.

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  11. spacer Karen on said:

    I was looking for homemade liquid laundry soap recipes as I just wanted to try it. And I came across your site. It was helpful because I live alone and don’t need 10 gallons. That would last me probably until either the Lord took me Home or the Rapture! But then……..I couldn’t help but watch your video about your beautiful Emily who went much too soon to the arms of Jesus. I cried and my heart ached. And I can’t imagine the pain. But I know that you know you will see her some day…and I will also see her, also. I pray for you, your husband, and your beautiful family. And the older I become, and as each day passes and it grows darker, I say, ‘Maranatha’. However, until that day, we continue to occupy and witness of His Love and Forgiveness. I look forward to meeting you and your family some day when we see our Lord and Savior—where they will be no more separation and pain. In His Love, Karen.

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  12. spacer Jessie on said:

    Your story has touched me more than you can know. I have not lost a child myself, but my cousin has. She was the cousin I was closest to and my husband & I lived around 9 hours away due to my husband’s youth ministry position in the church we were in at that time. My mom called to tell me that my cousin’s boyfriend, the baby’s father, had called a neighbor, also a paramedic, because she was unresponsive. Come to find out, within 8 minutes of being completely alone with her for the first time, he shook her. My cousin had to make the hardest decision in her life a few hours later, and had the doctors pull the plug when it was clear she wasn’t going to make it.

    I can’t even imagine what anyone who has lost a child goes through, and I won’t even try. I am happy to say though that she was able to move on somewhat. Not long after that she met someone else, had a son with him and was pregnant again when she passed on due to carbon monoxide poisoning. Her then fiance and young son still live, her son lives with her parents, and when I see him I’m reminded so much of her. I still grieve for my cousin and her babies often. I rejoice though in the thought that they are together, and someday all her kids will meet and she will be able to hold all of them in her arms.

    I pray for you, that through you, your daughter’s short live here on earth will give strength to others, and encourage them through their toughest hours.

    God bless you

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  13. spacer Marcy stump on said:

    Thank you so much for sharing that video, it really blessed my heart. I just miscarried our baby, we named her Blessing. She would have been our 5th. Trials are so hard, but I do love how the Lord uses everything in a believer’s life. I didn’t understand the Lord’s sovereignty until my daughter was diagnosed with cancer when she was 15, Praise the Lord, she is doing well and is carrying her own child now. The Lord used that in my life so I would seek Him for answers. I think once we understand the Lord’s sovereignty it helps us to rest in Him more and it helps us to understand life more. I really believe the