Pick Up Artist Magazine

Is Pick Up Dead?

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By David Wygant

What is the true definition of picking up a woman?

Well obviously, if you Google it or if you actually look up what the term pick up really means, it literally is putting her up over your head and doing bench presses with her. Unfortunately, some of us like women that are a little more round and a little more big and curvy, so that could be quite a workout.

Let’s really talk about what pick up means to men. What most men look at when they look at pick-up is the end result. They want to get the phone number. So when they approach a woman, all they’re thinking about is the initial approach: what sets, some type of routine, something that will get her attention, and then immediately, they focus in on the outcome. They want to get her number.

spacer And what a pick up artist will do is go over to a woman and say something that they think is funny or pre-planned. The woman will say something while the man won’t really listen and then he’ll want to close as quickly as possible. Why? Because most guys that use a routine are not good conversationalists.

They don’t have the conversation skills in order to really intrigue her; in order to really connect with her so then she wants to give you the phone number all on her own. She wants to go out; she wants to date; she wants to sleep with you and who knows what else. Most pick up artists are very outcome driven. They will look at a woman and they’ll basically look at think, “I really want her. I want to go out with her, I want to get her number.”

Outcome driven, outcome driven, insanity.

How do you even know that you like this girl? So you like the way she looks. Who cares? There are so many women that look great. Let’s forget about that, okay. That is on such a superficial level it’s ridiculous. How do you know you even like what she has to say, what her beliefs are, her feelings are, or how she’s going to treat you? You don’t know that and you’re not going to find that out if you walk over there with a pick up in mind. If you walk over there with some routine-based opener, not really listening to what she has to say and then trying to close her as quickly as possible. It’s funny how many guys will always tell me, “If I can just get the phone number I’ll be great on a date.” And I look at them, I say, “No, you won’t because in order to get the phone number you’ve got to connect. In order to connect with a woman you’ve got to talk to her about what’s going on in the moment. In order to reconnect, you’ve got to listen to her so you’re able to get inside her world. So you’re able to intrigue her, turn her on, and create real attraction.”

I want you guys today to really think about what pick-up really means to you. How many of you are really routine-based? I want you to put together a chart of every time you approach a woman. How often are you successful? Take a look at the numbers. Take a look at your success ratio.

90% of the time, when I go over and I talk to somebody, I relate to them well. I relate to what she’s feeling, what she’s doing and I listen and I talk. We usually have good conversations. I’m 100% successful in opening up anybody I talk to. 90% of the people talk back and have a conversation. Only about 20% to 30% of them I’m interested in. I have so many opportunities that I’m able to attract the two to three out of every 10 that I’m interested in. I’m constantly connecting, constantly talking, constantly working on my communications skills with people.

It’s the only way to meet women. Pick-up doesn’t work, and I’ll prove it every day of the week.

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How To Deal With Flaky Chicks

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By David Wygant

So you met this girl that you’re really attracted to. You go out on a date with her. She’s fun. She’s a blast. It ends well. She kisses you. You think everything is going great.

You call her a few days later and ask her out again. She says yes. You get a text from her as you’re pulling out of the driveway to pick her up. Something came up and she can’t make it. She texts you the next day and makes plans. So, you set something up for a few days later. And sure enough, when the day comes she texts again and tells you something else came up and she can’t make it. And she reschedules again.

So you, of course,–like a puppy dog that goes along with anything—reschedule with her. And sure enough, you get to go out with her one more time and you’re so happy. At the end of that date, she kisses you again. Everything seems great. And then you schedule another date with her and she does it again—she flakes again and texts you at the last minute. What does all this mean? Here’s what it means. It means that you need to stop thinking with your dick. Whether this girl is hot or not, she’s got the mind of 12 year old. She’s all over the map, what I call an “ungrounded chick”.

spacer There’s tons of them running around. Usually they’re working a few jobs or they have a job they don’t like and they’re constantly searching for something else or they’re under the influence of their clique or their friends. And they roll with the punches. Whatever their friends say, they’ll do.

A lot of guys e-mail me and ask what they should do in these situations. How do I change her behavior? How do I make this stop happening? How do I get her to stop flaking on me? How do I talk to her? I mean, how do I have sex with her?

You don’t.

Here’s the deal, guys: this is who she is and this is the stage that she’s at in her life right now. She’s in a very flaky stage in her life. She’s not grounded. She doesn’t know who she is. She doesn’t know what she wants. And your job is not to help her. Your job is to let her go.

Let some other dude deal with her crap because you don’t need to. You’re not going to change where she is in her life right now. And that’s something that everybody needs to understand. A lot of guys don’t understand that. When you have a woman who’s at this point in her life, she’s at this point in her life for a reason. She needs to figure out her journey right now and you’re not a part of it.

I have no patience for flakers at all. I’ll usually just tell a girl, “Look, you’re just all over the map right now. I don’t have any patience for this. I just wanted to hang and have a good time. When you’re a little more grounded, call me.”

I’ll call them out on it. It’s amazing what happens. They’ll get a little pissed, but they’ll know it’s true. And then sure enough, you’ll run into them three, four months later when they’re maybe a little more grounded and guess what? They remember you as the strong guy; the one that basically slapped them around and told them to go get their crap together in order for them to hang out with the gift of you. You put yourself in a much greater position of power that way when you do that. You go out as the strong guy, not the weak guy. The weak guy will continue to pursue her. Guess what happens to him? Absolutely nothing. He doesn’t get laid. He doesn’t get to hang out with her. He just becomes the pawn in her life.

But, the guy who’s strong, the guy who tells her to get her crap together, is the guy that gets looked up again three, four months later. How do I know? I’ve been doing this for 25 years, calling women out on their crap. Every client of mine that I tell to do this ends up with the girl three or four months later, because it shows her that you are a strong person and you are not afraid of the outcome. You’re not outcome driven. You’re not afraid to let her go. It’s amazing, and it shows strength, and it turns them on.

Next time, listen to me, and we’ll see what happens.

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Be A Fashion Victim

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By David Wygant

We hear the phrase over and over again: the clothes make the man.

Yet so many guys go out wearing the free t-shirt they got at the Microsoft Convention. They wear the sweatshirt that they got at the barbecue. They wear jeans that don’t fit them correctly, meaning they’re too big, too baggy, too over-dyed, what it might be. A lot of men wear clothes that they bought 15 years ago or 10 years ago so that they get the most amount money out of them.

But here’s the deal: the clothes do make the man and that’s what it’s all about.

When you first meet a woman for the very first time, I don’t care if it’s a date or if you’re going to approach her in the super market: what you’re wearing tells her how you take care of yourself. It shows her that you’re a well-made man, meaning you care about your appearance, you care about who you are, and you’re up on the latest trends and fashions.

Women in the olden days were all about fixing a man. It didn’t matter what the guy wore because she knew once they got into a relationship she’d be able to go through his closet and basically eliminate all the bad clothes and get the man to dress exactly the way that she wants.

spacer Those days have come and gone with the Internet and all the great online clothing stores. You can go get nice clothes at a discount without having to leave your home. Women expect a guy to own his look and to have the right look for him. It’s really important and it’s a detail that a lot of men forget about.

If you’re confused about what to wear, this is what I strongly suggest: go to your local department store, maybe a Nordstrom’s, a Bloomingdale’s or a Macy’s. Find the cutest sales girl there is and walk directly over to her. Say, “Excuse me, I’m in dire need of a fashion make over. I’ve got the worst taste in clothes and I’m tired of it, and I’d like to get your opinion on things. Take me around and show me exactly what I should be wearing.”

And then just go around and try stuff on! When you come out of the dressing room, ask her what she thinks. You can ask the other sales girls what they think too. Ask some of the customers what they think. It’s a great way to meet women, too.

You don’t buy much of anything at the first store because these women might be on commission, so they might not be telling you the truth. But go to another men’s clothing store and find another cute sales girl and ask her the same exact thing. Do this all day long until you find the clothes that are in your budget that you like.

Make a list. Take pictures of what you like, so that way you know when to go back and what store to go back to and where to buy it. Not only is it a great way to come up with a new look—which is going to be great for meeting women—but you’ll actually meet women while you shop.

Women love when you do this. I do this all the time in my boot camps with the guys. I always take them out and always get them to become the fashion victim. Women love doing make overs. You can flirt and talk to them and hang out with them. It’s a great way to practice your flirting skills. It’s a great way to practice to approach skills, and it’s a great way to find a new wardrobe, so you’re killing two birds with one stone.

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Supermarket Game

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By David Wygant

Paper or plastic?

For those of you who have purchased my audio programs, you have heard me talk about always meeting women in Whole Foods. But I realize, there just aren’t enough Whole Foods to go around in this country of ours, and a lot of you don’t even have Whole Foods because you live out of the country.

So I want you to substitute Whole Foods for Safeway, Ralph’s, Albertson’s, Piggly Wiggly’s, or Publix. A lot of you also realize that there are a ton of beautiful women in supermarkets because there is something that all women do: they eat. And they’ve got to get the food in the same places that you do—supermarkets.

spacer So the reason why I’m always pushing supermarkets on all of you constantly is because one thing that all people do is eat and shop. That’s why I always list supermarkets as on of the great places to meet women.

So, work on owning that supermarket, or becoming really memorable in that market. Have fun in that market, so the people who work in that market are actually anticipating you coming in. They’re talking about you in the lunchroom. “Hey, when is that David Wygant coming in? When is he coming in to brighten my day? When’s he coming in to be that memorable shopper?”

Most people that work in markets are in constant “paper or plastic” mode. They barely even look up; they barely even recognize a customer because they just want to punch the clock, make their money, go home, and live their life.

But you’re going to change that because you’re going to make the supermarket your playground and you’ve got to start with the employees. You’ve got to get to know all the people. Get to know the guy that cuts the meat. Get to know the person that scoops your fish into the container. You have to know the person that scoops the food. You have to know the person that makes your sandwich.

spacer Talk to them. Find out things about them. Because that way when a beautiful woman is standing there, you go and you get preferential treatment, and she’ll wonder why she doesn’t. She’ll want to know you.

The most important people in the supermarket are the paper and plastic dealers. And those are the people you really want to know. At some point you’re going to be in line behind somebody or someone’s going to be behind you and you’re going to want to meet them. So you’re going to want to get the cash register person to break the ice for you.

Here’s what I love to do over and over again: whenever I hear a woman, whenever a woman ever says to me in line or the check out person says to me in line, paper or plastic, I look at them directly in their eyes, and say, “Oh, no, no, no. I don’t want paper or plastic.” And then I’ll hold my arms out and pretend like I’ll carry it all out right there in my arms. They laugh. The people in line will laugh. It’s an icebreaker.

You then can turn to the woman behind you and ask, “Are you a paper or plastic person? Which one are you?” Or, “Let me see your arms.” And you can start stacking groceries on her arms and having fun, immediately creating intimacy of touch and having a good time.

Just remember to have fun. And it starts with making yourself memorable to the most important people in your supermarket day game environment—the cashiers.

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Talking To Shop Girls

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By David Wygant

I have the hots for shop girls.

You know, the cute girl you see at Starbucks who works behind the counter? Think of the woman who works the Men’s department at Nordstrom’s. Maybe the waitress you see at the neighborhood bar every Friday night. How many of you have that crush on that shop girl, but just don’t know exactly how to close the deal or how to distinguish yourself from the crowd?

Here’s something that I like to say to women all the time when I walk into a shop: I look at them and ask, “Do you enjoy working here?” And I talk a little bit about the job and then I’ll ask, “What time do you get off?” And they’ll look at me and they’ll say, “I get off at 9.” I would say, “Really? You get off at 9? That’s pretty hot. That’s early to get off. I usually get off around 11 because it helps me sleep at little bit better. You see, when I get off at 11 and have a really good, fun time before I get off, I tend to get a better night’s sleep. I tend to sleep like a little baby if I got off really good.”

spacer And when you say this, you have to say it with a big smile on your face. Act goofy, act funny, but look her directly in the eye when you speak to her. I know most of you right now are reading this and thinking to yourself, “That David Wygant is out of his mind. I’m not going to walk up to a woman and ask what time she gets off, and tell her I’d like to get off with her.”

Why not? Why not have fun? A lot of you guys like structure; you like to have things to say before you go and actually talk to a woman. Well here’s the deal: I’m not like that. I don’t like to have things pre-determined to say. I prefer––when I go connect with a women––to observe, react to my observation, listen, and have a conversation. Sometimes I just like to have fun. Sometimes I like to just be goofy, and sometimes I like to just get a little naughty, like from the get go.

So the next time you see a woman working at Starbucks that you’ve got a crush on, I want you to look at her directly in her eyes and say, “Hey, how’s this job going for you, is it good?” She’s going to look at you and say whatever she says and you’re going to listen, react, and have a conversation.

And you’re going to go out there and you’re going to do this, and you’re going to perfect it and you’re going to have fun. It’s a great way to be memorable. It’s a great way to break through fear. And it’s a great way for you to maybe even get off.

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It’s Easy To Get Laid For Free At Strip Clubs. Here’s Why.

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By David Wygant

Since launching my original book in 2004,  “Mack Tactics”, I’ve trained thousands of guys around the world how to effectively talk to, and seduce, beautiful women.

I’ve come up with an arsenal of innovative techniques and routines that have taught 30-year-old virgins how to finally seal the deal, and I’ve shown natural-born ladies’ men how to turbo-charge their game to a “rock star” level and score 9s and 10s on a consistent basis.

At this point, I’ve got the skills to approach, and connect with, virtually any woman I want.
But I’ve got a confession to make, to my crew at Pickup Artist Magazine…

I’ve still got the hots for strippers.

Sure, I’ve banged a ton of hot “regular girls” from New York to New Zealand, from Brazil to Bangkok, from Las Vegas to London. But when I want to head out with my buddies for an evening of PUA adventure, our evenings will often begin at a strip club.

This is where I like to “plant some seeds” and rack up phone numbers, so that later in the evening—when my favorite lap-dancers get off of work—I’ve got a multitude of options to choose from.

If the “regular” girls that I meet at the bars and nightclub that evening don’t pan out for whatever reason, I’ll definitely have a few strippers texting my phone and wanting to hang out.
(It’s also pretty cool to be at a bar or nightclub hanging out with some regular chicks, and suddenly a few smoking-hot strippers that I met earlier show up to see me. That’s some massive “social proof!”)

Let Me Tell You Why I Love Strip Clubs…

Strip clubs are sexually charged atmospheres where you’re surrounded by nearly-naked babes. The booze is flowing, the music and lighting are designed for seduction, and every one of these girls is gunning for the chance to hang out with YOU.

However, the average clueless chump who enters a strip club is only looking to be a CUSTOMER. This means he’s going to fork over his hard-earned money for cock-teasing lap dances, brutally overpriced drinks, and shallow conversations with strippers who view him as nothing more than an ATM machine on legs. (And she knows exactly which buttons to push to make the cash come out!)

But when you’ve learned these Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction, you look at strip clubs (and the dancers) in a different light. When I enter a strip club, I see an incredible target-rich environment filled with sexy and available women.

spacer (I also tell my students that strip clubs are the perfect place to hone your pickup and flirting skills, especially around very hot women.)

Let me run down a few other reasons why I’ve got a particular fondness for women who work the chrome pole:
• Strippers have outrageously awesome bodies. (Not all strippers, mind you, but the ones you’ll be macking on after you read this.) There won’t be any surprises (i.e. cellulite, stretch marks or flabby stomachs) once they’re in your bedroom, peeling off their clothes and getting ready to rock your world. You’ve already seen “the goods” when they were strolling around the club wearing not much more than dental floss and a pair of stiletto heels.
• Strippers are tons of fun to party with (ask my man Charlie Sheen). They’re amazing as “wing women” too; if you’ve got HSF’s (Hot Stripper Friends), every guy in the bar will want to be you, and every girl in the place will assume you’re either a multi-millionaire, hung like a horse, or just a total bad-ass.
• Strippers are sexually uninhibited, and 94% of them are bisexual (I did the math)
And here’s the big reason to love strippers…
• Strippers approach YOU!

Of course, their intent (at first) is to get you to burn your cash on lap dances. They’re programmed to run their “sales routine” on you. But if you know how to shut off their “stripper programming,” you can easily hook up with them.

Basically, this means you frame yourself as the opposite of all the customers who walk into her club every night.

The typical customer is shocked and nervous when a stunningly hot stripper approaches him and asks him if he wants a dance.

Reframe it. You are the prize, not her.

Stripper: Can I sit here?
You: It depends, are you going to be fun and interesting?
Stripper: (She give you a look of surprise and smiles, because she’s never heard that type of response…) Yes.
You: I don’t know…you kind of hesitated. I have to think about it. (Pause, smile, make eye contact) OK, sit down for a few minutes…I want to ask you something.
From here, just run one of the routines that I teach in the Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction program.

Five Critical Tips On Stripper Seduction…

#1 Walk into the strip club with your head held high, and radiate confidence. After learning the kick-ass tactics in the Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction book, you’ll have a game plan for success. You’ll know exactly how to deflect “lap-dance requests” in a clever, funny way—and then, you’ll get her to sit down with you so that you connect with her on a real level and get her reveal things about herself she would never share with a “chump customer.”

Having dated several top strippers in Las Vegas, I can tell you that these girls spend most of their time at work making small talk with boring, lonely and very lame men.

Once you start using the Teases, Hooks, and Advanced Conversation Tactics that I explain in the book, she’ll forget that she’s working! She’ll see you as an ultra-confident, playful, charming guy who she wants to hang out with as soon as her shift is over.

#2 When you enter the club, make your way to a table, or take a seat at the bar. Never lurk or mill around as if you’re unsure of where to go. And you should never sit on “pervert row,” which is what the girls call the seats around the stage. Those seats are strictly for the chump-ass customers who want to see the pussy up-close and hold out $1 bills, without having to pay for dances.

#3 Once you’re sitting down with her, do not touch her. Don’t stare at her tits. Maintain eye contact. And never comment on how hot she is; if anything, call her “cute.”

Example: “I have to say Jennifer, not only are you cute, but you seem to have a cool personality…but I’m not sure about you yet, so I want to ask you…”
(Then, use one of the “conversation starters” in the Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction book to frame yourself as a super-confident Alpha Male who isn’t quite sure if she’s up to your level.)

NOTE: There is a strategy that I use to “buy” lap dances when I feel that getting a dance will “close the gap” between me and a hot stripper. Lap dances are OK—as long as she doesn’t think YOU are paying for it.

It works like this. You bring a wingman to the strip club with you. When you’re sitting with a stripper that you want to bang tonight, you give your wingman a signal. He will then take the stripper aside and tell her, “My friend doesn’t normally buy lap dances, but I owe him one, so I’m going to pay for you to dance for him.”

Then, you get a lap dance but you’re not “responsible” for it. During the dance, you should play it off like it’s funny, and act like you’re not really into it…stroke her ass and legs a little bit and coax her to sit down in your lap and chill out. Act like lap dances are not a big deal to you; you’re more interested in talking to her.

spacer Then use the tactics in the Conversation Control chapter of Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction, to amplify her attraction and make her want to GIVE you her phone number so that you see her later tonight!

#4 Bust her out of her routine. Dancers, like used car salesmen, have canned routines they use to motivate customers to spend money. When she asks you your name, or where you’re from, ignore it. Go into your OWN routine (as I explain in the Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction book), and control the conversation. The idea is to get her out of “work mode” and into “laid back chat mode.”

#5 Always respect her profession. Never refer to what she does as “stripping.” The term to use is “dancer.” During the conversation, you should say (or imply) that you’ve dated dancers before. Demonstrate familiarity with her profession: “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would probably get along and there’s a lot more to you than what these customers know…”

Or, “You must have some funny stories from working here. My ex girlfriend was a dancer and she used to tell me about the crazy customers she had to deal with…”

I put together a short, free video that explains my top tactics for bringing strippers home with you TONIGHT. This is an easy-to-learn, step-by-step system that will get you laid as much as you want, with the strippers you (and your friends) want the most. Click here to take a quick look!

The Power of Eye Contact

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By David Wygant

So there she is, standing in line, waiting for her latte.  Oh, she’s so hot.  She’s like 5’3″, 105lbs. Cute little spinner. You can even start to smell her great perfume that she has on. She’s got an ass that looks like a heart-shaped moon. Everything about her is exactly what you want.  

So you think to yourself, “I’ve got to come up with something to say.” Yo

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