Wednesday, 06 February 2013
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Confusing Ex-Boyfriend
This post was submitted by Abby.
My boyfriend of 5 months and I broke up about two weeks ago. Initially, I cut off all contact and we didn't speak. About a week ago, he started texting me every day.
He told me that he has feelings for me, but he doesn't want to date me. In addition to that, he is incredibly jealous and gets so mad when I bring up other guys.
If he misses me and has feelings for me, then why doesn't he want me back? In addition to this, what can I do to have him begging at my feet?
Thanks!
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He is trying to keep you hooked by messing with your head. And based on the last question in your post, you look like you want to do the same.
A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN- 2/6/2013 5:52 PM
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QuantumStorm@xanga
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Don't be a slutty bitch who talks about other guys to someone you're clearly interested in? Jealousy isn't just for the guy's sake, you know. It's to preserve your dignity. I can't even begin to express how fucked up it is to deliberately try to make him jealous by being self-defeating. That's like the emotional equivalent of cutting for attention.
- 2/6/2013 6:07 PM
- T3hZ10n@xanga (message)
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Just going to call it like it is - he's just messing with your head. He has feelings for you, but he doesn't want to date you? C'mon. AKA - he wants to hook up with you without the emotional attachment. Unless you're willing to enter that type of relationship with him, continue ignoring him.
- 2/6/2013 6:05 PM
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jmeLove_x@xanga
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Sounds like the two of you should stay exes. Why are you playing games with him? If you have to ask, clearly he will win. There are so many ways you can be emotionally manipulative, but why do you want to do it? And why would you ask how to make him beg (ie you being manipulative)? Stay exes and move on.
The other magic 8 ball is douchy so here...ask this one.
- 2/6/2013 6:29 PM
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Erika_Steele@xanga
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It's simple. He's a controlling person and wishes to manipulate you emotionally.
Simply find his number in your phone and delete it.
Then find someone more suited to your life style.
Good luck
- 2/6/2013 6:56 PM
- theartofsexy@xanga (message)
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Seems like he simply isn't mature enough to be dating. He has feelings for you, because he cares about you, but doesn't know how to be in a relationship (or isn't sure that he wants to be in one). Feelings and reality are two different things. People always have a certain expectation of what a relationship should be, they don't realize how complicated and difficult it really is, and once they find out.. it usually takes a long time for them to get a hang of it.
- 2/6/2013 7:25 PM
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pnklace@xanga
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Men can be possesive. It's a primal thing. It doesn't mean that he still love you. It means he is trying to pee on you to mark you as his territory.
- 2/6/2013 8:09 PM
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He is trying to get friends with benefits. Don't do it, it never works out.
- 2/6/2013 10:15 PM
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If he doesn't want to be with you, then he doesn't like you. He just thinks you're a good fuck.
Also, he needs to quit the jealousy and you need to quit the games. Just say it to him up front: wtf are you doing man?
- 2/6/2013 10:35 PM
- DontTurnAway@xanga (message)
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Wow, most of these posters are really overreacting. Has no one here ever missed someone/something they spent a lot of time with regardless of whether or not they liked them? Has no one missed an ex or had leftover feelings for them even though they drove them crazy?
He isn't playing games with you, he just misses you because you spent a lot of time together, THAT'S ALL. You probably have some qualities that he liked, but overall they weren't enough and you weren't compatible. And he probably misses those qualities.
You're like a crappy beat up car. Even though you guzzled gas, broke down all the time, and were barely drivable, there's still those memories and that bond from the time you spent together. I miss my crappy car, even though when I had it all I wanted to do was murder it.
He isn't doing anything wrong. Missing you is a normal, healthy part of the break you. You, however, need to stop YOUR mind games. Leave him alone. He broke up with you, he doesn't want to be with you. Why would you want to be with someone that didn't really want to be with you? Why are you creating poor reasons for him to get back together with you, wouldn't you want him to get back together with you because he likes you and not out of jealousy?
- 2/6/2013 10:56 PM
- Syaoransbear@xanga