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Adoption

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  • But What About My Family?

    The Chronicles of Munchkin Land
    Jenna
    14 Mar 2013 | 7:15 am
    Oh, Facebook. In the words of my husband, Facebook is the devil. I was bopping around there this morning, discussing how I have migrated from Google Reader — to close this July — to Netvibes (100% cloud based so it goes with you, unlike Feedly) when one of those “suggested pages to like” popped up in my News Feed. I don’t like these suggestions very often, though once it told me to like a running page that I do, in fact, like. Rarely are they ever right in matching what truly interests me and are always based on what I was just doing online. Prior to this moment,…
  • Six words: The adoption version

    Harlow's Monkey
    Jae Ran
    14 Mar 2013 | 6:58 am
    Several folks on my facebook feed this past week linked to The Race Card Project that was created by journalist Michele Norris. For The Race Card Project, people are encouraged to describe their experience of race using only six words. The submissions are powerful and heartbreaking and uplifting. I read through several pages of them and found myself at times nodding my head in affirmation and sometimes surprised (in both good and bad ways) by what was submitted. Norris' The Race Card Project is not the first "Six Word" idea. I've participated in a local one for my city and…
  • Randy Travis and me (and adoption)

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    Unsigned Masterpiece
    15 Aug 2012 | 1:10 am
    UM I am not a big fan of country music.  That makes it sound a bit like I don’t like it.  That’s not it, it’s just not usually my go to music.  Rock and Roll!!! But there was a time that I listened to a lot of country music or to be more specific, a lot of Randy Travis.  The year I was looking for and found my son, there were two CD’s I played all the time, at home, in the car, everywhere. One was Randy Travis’ Storms of Life and the other was Famous Blue Raincoat, the songs of Leonard Cohen (See my page About the Name) as sung by Jennifer Warrens. I played…
  • 5 Tips for Surviving the Adoption Wait

    Infant Adoption Guide
    Tim
    6 Mar 2013 | 5:26 pm
    You know the old saying “good things come to those who wait”? For most of us who are trying to build our family through adoption – we have a hard time grasping this. Every day that we wait for our baby feels like forever. We so badly want to be parents, and it is soooo [...]
  • Washington State HB 1525: Demand House to Amend Disclosure Veto

    The Daily Bastardette
    Marley Greiner
    20 Feb 2013 | 10:28 am
    The Washington State legislature  is currently running two OBC access bills:  HB 1525 and SB5118. (original bill)  These are not Bastard Nation bills.Originally both contained language that maintained current Disclosure Vetoes in place and continue the option for future use.  Last week the Senate amended its bill and removed all DV language current and prospective.  (Sub bill)  The House has not followed suit.Washington State activists have  asked for immediate action from to urge the Washington House to amend its bill bu removing all DV…
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    Musings of the Lame; life as a birthmother in adoption

  • Inside Out Adoption Healing Seminar NYC

    admin
    13 Mar 2013 | 8:29 am
    Inside Out Adoption Comes to the New York City Area! WHO: Inside Out Adoption WHEN: Saturday, March 30, 2013 10:00am until 6:00pm WHERE: Evan B. Donaldson Institute, 128 E. 38th St., New York, NY 10016 WEBSITE: Inside Out Adoption Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Relationship Tests to Unite Relatives

    admin
    7 Mar 2013 | 9:10 am
    There are many heart wrenching cases of children wanting to be reunited with their biological parents or relatives wanting to know whether they are truly related to a person they suspect to be their blood relatives. These people simply want and need answers to be able to find that inner peace. The not knowing who you are or where you came from can be a very distressing, life long experience. Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Born Baby Wagner, Died Alyssa Rachael Toner

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    6 Mar 2013 | 7:30 am
    I did not know Alyssa Toner. What I do know, though, is that Alyssa was searching and cannot finish her search. She made the video, but it does not show up in searches for her birth date. The article about her adoption birthmother search does not seem have been published. The news stories about her death, do, right now, but as time passes, news articles like these get achieved and fall way down on the search rankings. Maybe her search will be forgotten completely. Maybe her account will be... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Hudson Valley Adoption Support Group Monthly Meetings

    admin
    4 Mar 2013 | 10:29 am
    WHO: Hudson Valley Adoption Support Group WHEN: 1st Thursday of every month WHERE: locations change, please confirm BONUS: You get to hang out with me!! Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Life Wins Out Over Adoption

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    2 Mar 2013 | 7:30 am
    So while dealing with mothering obligations and major house construction ( did I mention we built WALLS where there were none?), I got word that the piece I had written moths ago, was scheduled for publication in the SUNDAY New York Times! Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
 
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    ReadingWritingLiving

  • Fiction: RUSTY.

    susanito
    9 Mar 2013 | 8:30 am
    Yesterday I sat myself down at the Grotto and attempted to write fiction for the first time in … many years. YEARS. I’ve blogged and written a number of essays during that time, but fiction? Not a word. And wow. It was hard. It was NOT like riding a bicycle. Or maybe it was, because riding a bicycle can be very, very difficult for me. It was painful, and creaky, and I stared at every word in horror as it emerged. I had an idea for a story. It was actually something of a challenge, where one of your friends says, “Hey, writer, why don’t you write a story about…
  • I’m… Baaaack.

    susanito
    6 Mar 2013 | 2:00 pm
    my key to the Writers’ Grotto Wow, it’s been a long time. I know I have popped in for one post every many months or so. But to be honest, I’ve been gone. I’ve been blogging elsewhere. But I feel the tide is shifting again. I am turning back to my writing life. I am terrified, thrilled, grateful, incredulous. I’ve been wanting to Return for a very long time now. Not writing – or not writing enough or what I really want/need to – has made me very sad. But I felt like I had to attend to other business. I felt like I needed to really focus on my health.
  • Multitasking? I Prefer Multifaceted.

    susanito
    5 Oct 2012 | 11:59 pm
    My life in these past several years (maybe decades) has been a challenge of perpetually trying to find balance between the many things that are important to me: writing, health and fitness, my family, my friends, my solitude, and my work. It hasn’t always easy; in fact often times it isn’t easy at all. But I have carried that mantra of “balance” in my mind every day. Sometimes it is elusive and there isn’t a second of what feels like balanced life. But in these past 24 hours, it all hung together the way it should, like a perfectly balanced mobile with hanging…
  • The Lost Shoji Screens

    susanito
    15 Jul 2012 | 11:44 am
    I had forgotten about the shoji screens until I saw someone post on Facebook this morning, about the shoji screens her grandfather had made by hand. And a ripple of panic passed through me. Where are my father’s shoji screens? He had made two sets of them, with my uncles, in our house in Park Ridge; one next to the front door, which created a small entry way into the living room; and the other set covering the sliding glass doors that led from the cluttered, sample-filled basement to the concrete patio that later became an enclosed, cluttered storage room. No matter. They were not in a…
  • The Last of the Ito Brothers

    susanito
    27 Nov 2011 | 4:02 pm
    Yo, Mas (sitting) and Ichi Ito I got the news this week that my Uncle Yo had passed away. He was the youngest of the three Ito brothers, of whom my dad was the middle. My Dad died in 2000, and my Uncle Ichi a few years after that. Uncle Yo had been hanging in there, the last of his generation and family, and even though I hadn’t seen him in many years, it gave me great comfort to know he was still there. Both of my father’s parents died before I was born, so I never knew my paternal grandparents. But I’d heard stories about them – about my blind grandfather, once a…
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    Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform (PEAR)

  • DOS Adoption Notice: Reports of the Removal of Children from Orphanages in the DRC

    PEAR
    15 Mar 2013 | 11:18 am
    Democratic Republic of Congo  March 15, 2013Notice: Reports of the Removal of Children from Orphanages in the DRCThe U.S. Department of State recently received several reports that children adopted in the Democratic Republic of Congo have reportedly been taken from orphanages by a birth parent or relative after the adoption decree and certificate of non-appeal was issued by Congolese courts. This information reportedly has been presented to adoptive families by their agencies either following the Form I-600 petition approval, or immediately prior to filing the Form I-600 petition. While…
  • Adoption Alert: Morocco Update

    PEAR
    8 Mar 2013 | 2:18 pm
    Morocco March 8, 2013Alert: MoroccoOn September 21, 2012, Moroccan Justice Minister El Mostapha Ramid published a notice instructing Moroccan prosecutors to oppose any petitions filed with a juvenile judge seeking the granting of Kafala guardianship decrees to foreign prospective adoptive parents (PAPs) who do not reside in Morocco. In his notice, he asks the prosecutors to emphasize to courts the importance of in-country residency for the Kafala guardianship, to verify whether the prospective adoptive parents reside in Morocco, and to request that judges not issue Kafala orders to foreign…
  • DOS Adoption Notice: Adoptions from Lesotho to Begin Under the Hague Adoption Convention

    PEAR
    1 Mar 2013 | 4:33 pm
    Lesotho  March 1, 2013Notice: Adoptions from Lesotho to Begin Under the Hague Adoption ConventionThe Hague Convention on Protection of Children and Co-Operation in Respect of Intercountry Adoption (Convention) entered into force for Lesotho on December 1, 2012. At that time, Lesotho did not yet have a fully functional Convention process in place and elected to suspend intercountry adoptions. The Government of Lesotho notified the U.S. Embassy in Maseru that the current suspension on intercountry adoptions will cease on February 28, 2013. The United States determined that it will be able…
  • DOS Adoption Notice: Taiwan implements a Pre-Adoption Immigration Review requirement for all adoptions by U.S. citizens of children residing in Taiwan

    PEAR
    28 Feb 2013 | 11:00 am
    Taiwan  February 27, 2013Notice: Taiwan implements a Pre-Adoption Immigration Review requirement for all adoptions by U.S. citizens of children residing in TaiwanThe Department of State shares the follow web alert posted by U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services on February 26, 2013. In January, the Taiwan Child Welfare Bureau issued an administrative order that requires all adoption cases filed on behalf of U.S. prospective adoptive parents with the Taiwan courts to undergo the U.S. PAIR process. The order applies to all currently licensed Taiwan adoption services providers (ASP),…
  • DOS Adoption Alert: Haiti authorizes U.S. adoption service providers

    PEAR
    8 Feb 2013 | 1:06 pm
    Haiti  February 8, 2013Alert: Haiti authorizes U.S. adoption service providersHaiti’s adoption authority, Institut du Bien-Être Social et de Recherches (IBESR), has authorized a limited number of U.S. adoption service providers (ASPs) to provide adoption services in Haiti pursuant to its new administrative adoption procedures, which became effective on November 5, 2012.  Although these new procedures are part of the Government of Haiti’s efforts to become a Hague Adoption Convention partner with the United States, at this time Haiti is not party to the Convention.  The…
 
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    The Daily Bastardette

  • Ohio: Hell Freezes Over Again

    Marley Greiner
    14 Mar 2013 | 1:47 am
    Hell froze over again in Ohio yesterday when the Catholic Conference endorsed HB61 which if passed will unseal the OBCs of thousands of Ohio adoptees born between Jan 1, 1964-September 17, 1996. HB61 sailed through the House Judiciary Committee unanimously 12-0 and is now on it's way to the House Floor.I have to go to work and can't write anymore at the moment.  More later.
  • Ohio: Hell Freezes Over. Ohio Right to Life Supports OBC Access, March 6, 2013

    Marley Greiner
    12 Mar 2013 | 3:30 pm
    Hell froze over last Wednesday (March 6, 2013) when Ohio Right to Life, dropped its decades long opposition to OBC access and testified before the House Judiciary Committee  in support of HB61.  We knew earlier that ORTL had dropped its opposition, but its endorsement and testimony came as a surprise. You can read this historical  testimony on the Bastard Nation webpage.  The testimony begins:Some of you may know that for decades, Ohio Right to opposed opening adoption records to adoptees born/adopted between 1964 and 1996. The concerns of privacy and the…
  • Ohio: HB 63 Sponsor Hearing Report- House Judiciary

    Marley Greiner
    22 Feb 2013 | 4:12 pm
    Wednesday (February 20, 2013) I attended the Ohio House Judiciary Committee Sponsor's Hearing for HB 63, which would restore the right of OBC access to Ohio adoptees  born between January 1, 1964-September 17, 1996.  Those born after that date currently have access at the age of 21 (at 18 their aparents can access), unless a birthparent has filed a  Disclosure Veto with the state. Ohio Vital  Statistics does not know how many DV's are on file (!), but the number is probably minuscule   Washington State, which has a similar law, reports only four DVs…
  • Washington State HB 1525: Demand House to Amend Disclosure Veto

    Marley Greiner
    20 Feb 2013 | 10:28 am
    The Washington State legislature  is currently running two OBC access bills:  HB 1525 and SB5118. (original bill)  These are not Bastard Nation bills.Originally both contained language that maintained current Disclosure Vetoes in place and continue the option for future use.  Last week the Senate amended its bill and removed all DV language current and prospective.  (Sub bill)  The House has not followed suit.Washington State activists have  asked for immediate action from to urge the Washington House to amend its bill bu removing all DV…
  • Another Dead Russian Adoptee: Maksim Kuzmin/Max Alan Shatto

    Marley Greiner
    18 Feb 2013 | 3:34 pm
    Russian media reports that another Russian adoptee has been murdered by his forever family.Best coverage so far comes from RT (Russian Television) and the Siberian Times.  A few minutes ago, The Dallas Observer's Eric Nicholson picked up the story in his blog.  Although I'm seeing accounts from  the Australian , British, and Israeli press,  US media is so far silent, but I suspect that will change in a few hours.RT reports that on January 21, a Russian adoptee identified as Maksim Kuzmin, 3,  living in Texas, died after a brutal…
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    Kimchi Mamas

  • The Software Doesn't Match the Hardware

    Kimchi
    6 Mar 2013 | 7:23 am
    As a parent of a ‘tween I found myself at the mall with my daughter the other day. It was right after school and she was still in her all-girls school uniform. As we walked by one of the kiosks, a young man stopped her and asked if she went to ABC Private School – he recognized the uniform as...
  • To Every Thing There is a Season

    Kimchi
    3 Mar 2013 | 7:11 pm
    Earlier this winter we celebrated warmer, spring-like days here in South Texas. There was so much happiness and hope in our little family – the way spring is supposed to be. What spring is supposed to mean. But as all South Texans know: if you don’t like the weather: stick ‘round, it’ll change. With a fierce, biting wind reminding me...
  • Sadness in Korea

    Kimchi
    20 Feb 2013 | 1:46 pm
    This article that popped up on my facebook feed has been haunting and haunting me. It's an article about the elderly taking their own lives after abandonment by their own children and society. I suspect some of the elderly do it to not be a further burden on their struggling children, honestly, but many of them commit the awful final...
  • From the Land of Dog Eaters

    Kimchi
    17 Feb 2013 | 11:34 am
    Before the birth of our first child, our yellow lab Sherlock led the privileged life as the sole heir of a DINK couple. My husband fed him specially ordered never frozen raw meat. We often emerged from pet shops with $20 squeak toys that Sherlock shredded within minutes. During the week, a professional dog walker chauffeured him and a few...
  • Stranger in a Strange Land

    Kimchi
    14 Feb 2013 | 8:21 pm
    The kids and I sat down at our local teriyaki place, next to a couple in their 50s with their buddy. They were very conspicuously complaining about all the taxes they have to pay this year, including a THOUSAND dollars to THAT OBAMA (I assume they make the check straight out to him?), and how they're not taking it anymore...
 
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    Lavender Luz

  • Wordless Wednesday: Weekend Souvenir

    Lori Lavender Luz
    13 Mar 2013 | 8:00 am
    Erica handed this to me Saturday night. I was whelmed. Overwhelmed. Icing: Carolyn Savage was my date for the evening.
  • On luck

    Lori Lavender Luz
    12 Mar 2013 | 7:30 am
    Just in time for St Patrick’s Day, we’re revisiting posts about luck for Time Warp Tuesday, the monthly blog hop offered by Kathy at Bereaved and Blessed. (Which, because I don’t like malted beverages, gives me much more to work with than would revisiting posts about green beer.) Kathy says: The symbols associated with the [...]
  • Forgiving the world

    Lori Lavender Luz
    4 Mar 2013 | 8:00 am
    We sit on the floor in criss-cross applesauce at the beginning of yoga class, and Jane instructs us to close our eyes and remember a time during childhood when we were hurt or scared, in order to find if there are areas in which we need to release and to forgive. Her soothing voice and [...]
  • The journals: teens and twenties

    Lori Lavender Luz
    28 Feb 2013 | 7:00 am
    Longtime readers may remember that I’m a natural-born documentarian — witness this array of journals that are in a Rubbermaid container under my bed. Each day of my life since high school is accessible with a simple lifting of a bin lid. Justine recently excavated some of her old journals, going back in time. I [...]
  • Perfect Moment Monday: Arms vs hands

    Lori Lavender Luz
    24 Feb 2013 | 7:00 pm
    I am raising the Bickersons. “Mom — he’s eating my cereal!” “Mom — tell her to give back my football!” “Mom — she told everyone I never change my socks!” “Mom — he got to pick the show last time!” “Mom — it’s MY turn sit in the middle!” Mom! Mom! Mom! Whether it’s a [...]
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    Therapy Is Expensive

  • Closing the Ever Revolving Door of the Birth Mom Closet

    Kat Cooley, MSW
    14 Mar 2013 | 8:16 pm
    What happens when you take a bunch of people who tend to avoid group situations and put them all in a room add some CBT, a lil DBT, a large dose of mindfullness and mix it all together with some psycho education? Well apparently an 8 week group for those diagnosed with Anxiety and or Depression. I completed my eighth session of group this week and thus graduated (i even got a certificate) from therapy group.  My first group there were 15 other participants my last group I was one of six. I’d like to say I was more comfortable as the group came to an end because I was cured of my…
  • Are There Standards for Adoption Facilitation Services?

    Kat Cooley, MSW
    10 Mar 2013 | 10:33 pm
    Serious question: Are adoption facilitators regulated? Are there any standards they must adhere to?  I know they aren’t even allowed to work in some states, but in the states that they do operate in, do they have a set of rules they must follow? I ask because my most recent interaction with Lifetime Adoption Center, has left me cold and worried for anyone else who has or will ever seek their help in planning an adoption from either side. I originally requested my records in 2009.  After a brief runaround I received a scanned copy of a questionnaire I had filled out at the…
  • WTF Wednesday Returns: In Which I Ramble…

    Kat Cooley, MSW
    27 Feb 2013 | 11:32 pm
    As this saga continues I’ll bring some clarity to this post but for now I just need to get it out. It’s like they all have a copy of the same script.  As I spoke to the worker (I refuse to say social worker because I can’t believe she is actually a qualified social worker) at the agency organization that facilitated the adoption of my son I felt like I was reading the both Danielle’s post as well as Jenna‘s. I started off in a very professional tone. But I was treated with disdain. I was made to feel like I was prying. And soon my tone was tinged with…
  • Are You Messing* With Me?

    Kat Cooley, MSW
    26 Feb 2013 | 4:19 pm
    That was my inital response last night when TeacherMan asked me to marry him. *Let’s be honest I said Fucking not messing. It was our anniversary and after dinner we went to get ice cream. He said something about this anniversary being hard to beat and I said “why” “You aren’t having a good time?” he asked his hand was in his pocket and for a brief moment I thought he was going to propose and then I admonished myself for being that girl. Just because someone’s hand is in their pocket on a holiday or anniversary does not mean he’s fiddling with a…
  • Protected: Giving Up Control

    Kat Cooley, MSW
    3 Feb 2013 | 11:49 am
    This post is password protected. You must visit the website and enter the password to continue reading.
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    A Barrel Of Nelsons

  • Do Not Be Afraid To Start

    admin
    13 Mar 2013 | 8:30 pm
    When you are out of shape, do not be afraid of getting started.  It holds so many people back.  Set a short term goal, and go for it.  I have been reaching a bunch of short term goals the last few weeks.  I am working up to 100 consecutive push ups.  Every week I am doing more and more.  I set goals everyday for it.  You should do the same kind of thing.  It does not have to be with push ups.  Start with walking goals.  Get a pedometer, and go to town.  Those things are awesome.  They provide results, and they provide motivation.
  • Obtain more Information on Missing Children

    admin
    13 Mar 2013 | 1:05 pm
    I do research all the time, on everything really. Lately I have been trying to obtain more information on missing children. All across the country as a matter of fact. There are organizations that actually form groups or teams all across the nation comparing pictures of runaway children, kidnapped children and or missing children trying to pair them back with their families. I find this so fulfilling being able to answer some questions or fill in the gaps for loved ones who have been missing their family members.  The one part that scares me is actually reviewing Jane Doe or…
  • Dealing With a Serious Back Injury

    admin
    13 Mar 2013 | 10:01 am
    When you experience some kind of serious back injury, you may have to deal with back pain for many years. You may never really be able to completely heal or go back to normal. You may have to do things that will ease the back pain and help you to cope. A lot of people have found that massage Lexington KY is just the thing that can help them. It is also important that a person exercises as much as they can and is at a healthy weight. This will not only help their body physically, but it will boost their mood.
  • Teeth Cleaning For The Entire Family

    admin
    13 Mar 2013 | 6:17 am
    When you are looking for a Fort Lauderdale Dentist you might as well find a dentist for your entire family. Why drive back and forth with all your children to the dentist whe
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