Posted by janet on Feb 20th, 2015
Parenting Made Easier
Every so often I receive a critical comment along the lines of this one:
“…reading things such as “I asked my baby if she wanted me to lift her up and with the slightest nod of yes, I did” (not exact quote) — when talking about a month-old baby — makes me want to laugh. It is true that babies, infants and toddlers should be treated with respect, and I adhere to the notion of the calm parent...
Posted by janet on Feb 6th, 2015
What To Do Instead of Rocking
There’s an old fashioned type of rocking that I appreciate but don’t hear much about these days. It is slow, gentle, and relaxing for both parent and child. There might be quiet conversation or singing, but there is no goal or purpose other than mutual contentment in just being together. A languid journey to nowhere.
These days I’m mostly hearing about the purposeful kind of rocking some experts advise for...
Posted by janet on Jan 22nd, 2015
Another Parenting Magic Word (And 7 Ways It Works)
“Your child’s feelings of security can be increased by continuing to tell her what is going to happen next. Knowing what will happen next gives her a feeling of control over her universe. In this way she isn’t continually surprised by events that occur. Rather, she has time to prepare for them. As you talk to her, predictability is reinforced verbally.” – Magda Gerber, Your Self-Confident Baby
Posted by janet on Jan 15th, 2015
Helping Your Baby Learn to Sleep (Guest Post by Eileen Henry)
“Sleep is not always a problem to fix. There is a large part that remains a mystery.”
That comment from sleep specialist Eileen Henry nails the reason I find it far more challenging to help parents with sleep issues than I do all other aspects of parenting. Sleep is deceptive and ambiguous, and I am infinitely more comfortable with clarity. This is also the reason I often ask Eileen -– always fearless and...
Posted by janet on Jan 2nd, 2015
5 Reasons I’m Looking Back With Gratitude
I have a personal holiday tradition that I began spontaneously a few years ago. On one of the nights between Christmas and New Year’s Day, I sit up late in our living room, basking in the glow of scented candles, shimmering Christmas tree lights, a blaze in the fireplace, and the music of the Chieftains or one of our other Celtic CD’s. I imagine myself in a cozy, wintery cottage in the Irish countryside (a place...
Posted by janet on Dec 4th, 2014
An Infant’s Powerful Moment
One of the greatest challenges for parents and professionals practicing mindful care is allowing children to struggle as they develop skills. It is far easier for us to do for them than it is to trust their natural process and offer hands-off encouragement. Good things often come to those who wait, but sometimes the wait can be excruciating for us.
I recently had the pleasure of meeting Mercedes Castle, a passionate...
Posted by janet on Nov 21st, 2014
The Evolution of a Diaper Change
Thank goodness for those occasional, special moments of deep connection and elation that punctuate our daily lives with children, because without these “bonuses,” parenting can be tedious, monotonous, and just plain hard.
We may not remember these experiences as the years pass, but our hearts will. They were our much-needed proof that we were bonding. It was working. Our efforts were actually paying off despite...
Posted by janet on Nov 7th, 2014
Opening the Door to Self-Expression
I’m thinking about launching a campaign similar to Nike’s using their slug line, but with a couple of added words. Instead of Just Do It, I’d advocate Just Let Kids Do It.
Letting kids do it whenever possible, when they want to, opens the door to self-expression and encourages creativity, originality, and innovation. Letting kids do it might sound simple and obvious, but it can actually be quite challenging...
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