Relaxation Therapy

 

What is relaxation (spanking) therapy?

Relaxation (spanking) therapy is a type of session that I offer that uses endorphins produced during any form of impact play to relax you. Some compare it a massage or yoga.

As the name suggests it involves spanking (with hand or any other implement) as a means to an end – relaxation. The play occurs well within limits, and the object of it to relax not to hurt. You are encouraged to assume comfortable position (over the spanking bench or the massage table) that aids relaxation.

 

Successful relaxation (spanking) therapy relies on combination of the following factors:

• Steady and individualised impact play
• Thrill of doing something unusual
• Deep and slow breathing
• Safe surrounding
• Trust
• Willingness to relax
• Your ability to convey your interests/previous experience

You do not have to be submissive to be interested in it. Relaxation (spanking) therapy is not about domination but about physical experience. Most of the people indulging and enjoy relaxation (spanking) therapy are not submissive at all. Majority of them are strong minded people who spend most of their life in full control of themselves and have various responsibilities that modern life and/or their jobs threw upon them. Relaxation (spanking) therapy is a way to escape your stressful life for an hour or two (with relaxing benefits usually lasting for much longer)

 

What to expect?

If you decide to try a relaxation (spanking) therapy session with me it will consists of three parts:

 

First of all, we will start with a chat to discuss your previous experience, limits and expectations. You are encouraged to say what it is on your mind even if it feels embarrassing. It is important you don’t let the nerves control you so that we can communicate sufficiently.

 

Second, once that is cleared we will start the relaxation (spanking) therapy in one of the two possible ways – gradual build up or mixed strokes (with or without harsher beginning).

Gradual build up as the name suggest involves your bottom being gradually warmed up with my hand and/or various implements. It is irrelevant how much you can take as the session can be 100% adapted to your needs, so don’t worry about it. I have a selection of implements to cater for various tastes and needs. Once your bottom is sufficiently warmed up I will slowly progress with harder strokes increasing the severity steadily until reaching the desired level that is well within your limits.

Mixed strokes approach involves mixture of gentler and harder strokes. It can involve a harsher start for the immediate and initial endorphin rush. The rest of the session will consist of a mix of strokes entirely depending on your ability to cope with it. Varying the severity will lead to endorphins being released in waves.

Generally relaxation (spanking) therapy evolves slower than any other type of session. It leads you, eventually, when the endorphins level is at its highest to the final experience. Then you can take even more pushing yourself over the edge into the so called endorphins rush. The final experience usually lasts 5-10 minutes. The rest of the session is there is prepare you, warm up not only your bottom but also your mind.

Playing on any type of level, from gentle to hard will have some relaxing properties, meaning it will release some endorphins. However, from my experience over the last few years, it is important to reach certain severity to release enough endorphins for the actual endorphins rush. The first approach with graduals build up is designed to make this process as easy and as ‘painless’ as possible. The second approach, especially if inclusive of the harsher start cuts the corner allowing for the endorphins release to occur faster. It does mean however ‘putting up’ with more pain to start with (which of course is what some of you want!). It is usually more effective and faster but for obvious reason it is not for everyone.

 

Finally, once the play part of the session is over it is important you take it easy. Every relaxation (spanking) therapy session with me ends with a suitable aftercare. You have time to slowly and gently come down from the experience, have a cup of tea and talk about the experience if you wish.

 

Differences between relaxation (spanking) therapy and a traditional CP session

Play taking place during a CP session is most commonly referred to as ‘punishment’. During a relaxation (spanking) therapy it is different. The play resembles more alternative version of a massage than a punishment.

CP session quite often has a fixed number of strokes applied harder while relaxation (spanking) therapy relies more on a steady approach and on strokes of milder severity with occasional (if any) harder ones.

Relaxation (spanking) therapy very often does not include roleplay scenario as talking can unnecessary disturb you from relaxing. Music in the background is optional. You are encouraged to try and relax your muscles (you will enjoy the endorphins rush more if you are not tensing purposefully) between the strokes as much as possible, to breathe deeply and slowly and to clear you mind of mundane problems.

From a beginners point of view relaxation (spanking) therapy is also a less scary way to introduce yourself to fetish play. It sounds more commonly accepted and should help you feel less nervous about the whole experience.

 

Is relaxation (spanking) therapy for everyone?

There is no scientific proof of how impact play (hand spanking, paddling, strapping, flogging, caning etc.) makes us feel relaxed. But those of use who experienced it don’t need scientific proof – we just know it works. Will it work for everyone? Absolutely not. The way someone people enjoy watching horror movies while others don’t relaxation (spanking) therapy (or any other type of fetish play) is not for everyone.

It takes that special relationship with pain. It requires certain acceptance of *some* amount of non-damaging pain in safe and controlled situation.

How can you know if you will benefit from spanking by feeling relaxed? Ultimately you won’t know it until you try it. There is, however, a type of people who are more likely to enjoy it. The question is whether your body releases enough endorphins* during a session like that to make you feel relaxed.

You don’t need to have high pain tolerance, although it is of course necessary that you are ok with idea of experiencing *some* pain. Basically what you want is for your body to *think* it is in pain so it responds to it (by releasing endorphins) but for you to be comfortable with what happens and *coping* with the amount of pain you might be in without too much of a struggl.

So how you might know relaxation (spanking) therapy is for you? Do you enjoy the rush people get from running or other (intense enough) exercise? Have you even found acupuncture, proper massage or similar relaxing? Does the idea of being spanked excite you? If you answered yes to any of those then there is a strong chance that you will benefit from relaxation (spanking) therapy.

 

*From a scientific point of view endorphins are the only suggested (so far) molecules that give us that rush, but there is a strong evidence that other substances might be involved as well.

 

Alternatives

Depending on your experience and limits relaxation (spanking) therapy session can include other forms of CP and BDSM play.

Most commonly various forms of restraints can be used for whole or part of the session. Play does not have to be restricted to bottom only either. I will often mix relaxation (spanking) therapy with other types of play described on my website based on your preferences.

 

 

NOTE: All the information provided here about endorphins is NOT of scientific accuracy. It is a simplified version of what I *think* happens based on my own experience (both on the receiving and giving end) combined with a lot of scientific reading and a science education.

 

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