When Ghosting Is Not Rude
Buzzfeed recently explored the morality of ghosting in the article In Defense of Ghosting. Prior to reading it, I assumed it was a self-serving excuse for behaving badly – pulling a rude and surprising disappearing act after sending signals of sustained interest. So I was quite surprised when I read it and learned just how low […]
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The Blowjob as Snow Job
Peggy Orenstein’s new book Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape has kicked up a lot of interest. Many are alarmed by her findings based on 70 interviews, but there’s nothing much that surprises me there. From Amazon: “While the media has focused—often to sensational effect—on the rise of casual sex and the prevalence of […]
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By the Numbers: Dating Apps
My most recent post about online dating has generated a lot of discussion, complete with lots of anecdotal reports. Dating apps are clearly a major player in the long-term mating market but stories of gender imbalances and poor treatment are commonplace. Does Tinder work? Who uses these apps? How, and to what end? Here’s what […]
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Online Dating is King
Here’s why we need to talk about and really understand online dating: Since 2009 that Online number has increased to a firm 25%. Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford, is conducting a longitudinal study of over 3,000 subjects on dating: How Couples Meet and Stay Together. He’s acquired a wealth of useful information, particularly around the […]
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Respect the Chemistry of Attraction
I was catching up with my young friend Cara yesterday and she mentioned that she’d had brunch with a college acquaintance who recently moved to town. Cara spoke admiringly of this young woman, who teaches in a tough city school. She described her as thoughtful, gracious and attractive in every way. Yet she felt that […]
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