How He Became Our Son, Part II

If you missed the first installment, you can find it here.

“Your sister’s in jail and you need to come get him.”

I was at work–in my new office. I took a deep breath and thought for a moment.

I have to tell the hubs. He’s NOT going to believe this. How could she be so stupid?I just started this job two weeks ago. How do I explain that I need
to take a day off already? How much do I share with my boss? How do I
explain that I’m going to be a parent?

My new firm was small. They appeared to be a family, but who ever really knows in those circumstances. I decided that laying it out there was my best approach. I knew there were going to be tons of adjustments and they needed to understand what was going on.

But were they going to be okay with this? I mean seriously
I just started this job.

Thankfully, my boss was amazing. Turns out he had a brother who was a bit of a “challenge” himself and he completely understood my situation.

Honestly, what happened next is a blur to this day. I don’t remember packing or going to the airport or even the plane ride home. I just remember getting off the plane and seeing him.

He was so little. He was so adorable. He had no idea what was going on.

The hubs and I had started dating the same year he was born, so he knew us both well. I was his god mother and we spent all the time we could with him whenever we were at my parents. We knew he’d be okay with us, but how were we going to explain that he was getting on a plane and coming to live with us–for how long we had no idea.

With my sister’s MS, my nephew was accustomed to her being hospitalized from time to time. We decided that the best approach for now was to tell him that she was sick and couldn’t take care of him so he was coming to stay with us for a while.

In reality, we had no idea what was going to happen. We didn’t have a lot of details about her arrest, about the process of hearings, about sentencing. Honestly, we didn’t have much experience with this, though enough that my parents had finally reached their breaking point and refused to post bail (and I was completely behind their decision). We just had no idea how long he’d be living with us. Three years? Five years? Her attorney thought it would be in that neighborhood.

The hubs had stayed behind to get things ready for our little guy’s arrival. I didn’t know what to tell him we’d need. My mom was getting his clothes and some favorite books and toys together. But what did we need at our house? I left it to my husband to figure it out.

When I came home Sunday evening I brought with me one huge bag and one little guy. What had the hubs gotten to get our house ready? A super-sized box of outlet covers.

Oh yeah, we were prepared.

Part III

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46 Responses to “How He Became Our Son, Part II”

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jodifur
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:15 pm
Can not wait to read part 3.
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Just Janice
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:19 pm
Wow – you’ve got me on the edge of my seat – I can’t wait to read the next post!
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Nancy
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:21 pm
WOW. More soon, please!
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Aimee Greeblemonkey
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:23 pm
this is seriously amazing. Remind me how old he was?
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Nancy
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:26 pm
I got goose bumps …. but all in a good way feeling.

“outlet covers” That just makes me smile.

I look forward to part III
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WhyMommy
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:36 pm
Good stuff! I wondered, when you mentioned that on Friday, how I had missed this story before ….
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Loralee Choate
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:45 pm
Pt 2 has me on the edge of my seat as much as part 1
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andi
April 2nd, 2008 at 9:22 pm
There better not me as much time in between this one and the next part as there was last time. You’re killing me!

Oh, and outlet covers? That was awesome.
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Maureen
April 2nd, 2008 at 9:44 pm
Wow. Incredible, I had no idea… love the way Hubs was prepared. About the same as most men, I see!

Can’t wait for more.
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Dorky Dad
April 2nd, 2008 at 10:28 pm
What the hell?? Why must I wait for part three? Argh.

And I thoroughly enjoyed the phrase “Holy shit on a cracker.” Just wanted to tell you that.
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Procrastamom
April 2nd, 2008 at 10:40 pm
This is really great…bring on Part III
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Velma
April 3rd, 2008 at 5:03 am
Outlet covers are a start, I guess… can’t wait to read the rest!
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truly
April 3rd, 2008 at 5:37 am
You continue to be my hero.
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Beth
April 3rd, 2008 at 6:23 am
You were prepared – you loved the little guy. Everything else was secondary to that.
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Paige Jennifer
April 3rd, 2008 at 7:20 am
When my sister was visiting with her two kids for all of a week, I prepared the house flawlessly – one gigantic box of Goldfish and a DVD of Wonder Pets. End scene.

Oh, and there’s this ridiculously awesome blogirl I know. I lurv her to pieces. Anyway, she always claims that she’s a so-so writer. And I just wanted to tell her (cough, you) – bullshit.

xoxo
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The Laundress~JJ!
April 3rd, 2008 at 7:26 am
I am so intrigued by your story!!!

You are amazing. And so is Hubs.
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Nola
April 3rd, 2008 at 9:33 am
What a great story! Love the suspense you build!!
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Kelly
April 3rd, 2008 at 9:41 am
Fantastic so far! Can’t wait for part III.
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BethGo
April 3rd, 2008 at 10:51 am
Oh my gosh. A box of outlet covers. Yep, that’s a man for you.
At least he wanted him to be safe from electricity. *wink*

I’m looking forward to the next post too.
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flutter
April 3rd, 2008 at 2:11 pm
This makes me love you more than I already do. I wish I could articulate the reasons why
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Julie Pippert
April 3rd, 2008 at 4:12 pm
(Sorry, too many typos) That you saw and loved him straightaway…and that you both just accepted the situation…him. Heartwarming. Can’t wait for rest.
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Ivy Brown
April 3rd, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Wonderful story.

As for preparedness, well…outside of our ability to love, are any of us really ever prepared beyond the outlet covers and such?

I would argue no. But the love? The love that you show in this post is a great place to start.

It’s all you can hope for, right?

XO,
Ivy Brown
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Queen of the Mayhem
April 3rd, 2008 at 6:53 pm
I’m with everybody else….I can’t wait to hear more! AND…if it’s possible…I love you more each installment. How lucky this little boy was (and is) to have you and the hubs in his life!
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Lotta
April 3rd, 2008 at 7:44 pm
This is a great story because I already know the happy ending is you!
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Claudia
April 4th, 2008 at 6:42 am
Truth? Are we EVER prepared for something like that? I know I wasn’t. (hugs)
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Jen M.
April 4th, 2008 at 10:01 am
I hope that he reads this someday – this is a real tear-jerker.

And I smile at the outlet covers thing, too.

*sniff*
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Jeff
April 4th, 2008 at 10:40 am
Awesome. We inherited a “bonus child” recently, but only for less than a year. Still, it was a wonderful experience. Can’t wait for the finale!
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Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You
April 4th, 2008 at 6:40 pm
oh wow… what a wild ride so far!
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Ruth Dynamite
April 5th, 2008 at 6:53 am
Cheese and crackers, Mamma! No doubt you rose to the occasion like the star you are. More please!
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Savvy Auntie Melanie Notkin
April 6th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
I want to read more… can’t wait for the next installment.
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Lizarita
April 6th, 2008 at 6:27 pm
Addicted to this series now. Can’t wait to hear ore. And BLESS you and your husband for doing such a great thing.
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Domestic Chicky
April 6th, 2008 at 7:36 pm
I have been enjoying this SO much!

I have been reading your blog for awhile, and I figured since we are twitter buddies and all, I thought I would tell you how much I enjoy your writing. Thanks for sharing this story!
xo
~Deanna
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Cathy
April 6th, 2008 at 9:04 pm
This is wonderful — keep writing!!
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Kimberly
April 7th, 2008 at 4:10 am
Amazing as always. Love this story.
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A Whole Lot of Nothing
April 7th, 2008 at 10:40 am
Holy Mamma – Keep going on this story!
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Day Dreamer
April 7th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
Just read both parts…wow.

Bet I’ll be tuning in for part three!!!….
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Gwen
April 7th, 2008 at 8:16 pm
Thanks so much for not posting Part II until I got back; I’m sure you did that just for me! (don’t worry, I’m not really that narcissistic) Outlet covers is a start, I guess. Looking forward to seeing what’s next.
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Grim Reality Girl
April 7th, 2008 at 9:16 pm
Okay wow. Could you hurry up and write the next installment??? I’m on the edge of my seat and hate waiting!!!

“Outlet covers — where it all starts.”

Yeah, you can use that for the book.
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Dorky Dad
April 7th, 2008 at 10:39 pm
Part 3? Where’s part 3? I came here for Part 3. I WANT MY PART 3!

Yup. I’m impatient.
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Karly
April 8th, 2008 at 6:39 am
I’m enjoying reading this. Can’t wait for part 3!
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Harried Mom of 3
April 8th, 2008 at 10:04 am
Wonderful narrative of what must have been a very trying time in your life. You are a strong, amazing person with the greatest capacity for love. Everyone around you is lucky to have you there. What heart!!
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Jenny, the Bloggess
April 10th, 2008 at 2:59 am
More! Now!
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Worker Mommy
April 10th, 2008 at 12:52 pm
I’m so glad you’re sharing your story. I’m eager to read part three of this amazing journey!
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Jenny
April 12th, 2008 at 4:36 pm
Just read I & II. Loved.

Need III now. thanksbai
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Lawyer Mama
April 16th, 2008 at 7:50 pm
I’m so excited to read this story, Amie. For some reason I’ve been hesitant to ask you about your sister even though I know a bit from reading your blog. Feel free to smack me for being stupid.

I love what your hubs did to prepare! That made me smile. And cry a little. And then smile again. Because I know how it ends (so far) and that’s amazing.
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