An Interview With Ken Wert

January 9, 2012 · 69 comments

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Ken Wert

“Whether here or elsewhere, whether “on your own” or with a professional, whether with clergy or a therapist, keep on the path, take the next step, and then the next. One day, one step at a time, you will begin to see life differently, yourself differently, and others differently.” – Ken Wert

Today, I am thrilled to present another interview to you!

This is the next interview, featuring Ken Wert of Meant To Be Happy. If you wish to read up on previous interviews with Bryan Thompson and Tess Marshall, please click here.

Ken has recently been named the ‘Best Personal Development Blogger of 2011′ by the readers of Change Your Thoughts, and so I felt it appropriate to interview him. I am also honoured to have him here as he is an incredible gentleman and a kind soul. The blogging world is better off with him in it.

I hope you enjoy Ken’s thoughtful responses.

Stu: Why did you decide to build a blog, and why focus your efforts in the personal development niche?

Ken: First of all, I want to thank you for this opportunity to be interviewed by one of my favorite people online.

I guess in a lot of ways, it’s an extension of who I am. I love ideas. They matter. They have consequences in our lives.  I love talking about great ideas and teaching them and wrestling with them in my own life.

So I guess what I’m saying is that blogging about happiness and character and personal growth is what I’m passionate about. I work at it and read the literature and teach it and talk about it in other settings. So in some ways, starting a personal development blog was an almost inevitable next step.

I also have an entrepreneurial spirit buried somewhere inside. I wanted to create something I could get excited about, that would be meaningful and that could, at least eventually, generate some extra income for my family. That, coupled with my love of writing, made a blog a seeming no-brainer.

Could you explain some of the inspiration behind ‘Meant To Be Happy’, and why you decided to use this theme as your blog?

Certainly. It’s as simple as truly believing people have great stores of untapped potential waiting to be discovered. I believe there are countless people living with varying degrees of unhappiness. That saddens me.

But I’ve found there are basic principles that are the building blocks of happiness. It’s something I’ve very literally studied for most of my life.

Also, to tell the truth, after a keyword search indicating millions of people searching for happiness every day and believing I’ve been blessed with some answers that would help that search, I thought the topic and I would make a nice match.

What would you say is the most important aspect of blogging?

I’m still new to the game here, so others would be much better qualified to answer this question. But it seems to me that if you don’t write content anyone else cares to read, it doesn’t matter how much SEO you know or how amazing your site looks, or how tantalizing your post titles are. It just won’t attract much long-term attention.

I also think that it’s not enough to be a good writer. You also have to have something of substance to write well about.

In other words, bad ideas will be an obstacle to great writing and bad writing will be an obstacle to great ideas. Both good ideas and good writing have to find some compatible blend for success.

Congratulations on being voted the No. 1 Best Personal Development Blog of 2011! Looking to 2012, do you have any future goals to build on your huge success?

Thanks, Stu. That means a lot to me. I have 4 blogging goals for 2012 (for now, anyway – I’m always open to adjusting them as I go):

1. Guest post as often as I can produce additional content (time constraints are real obstacles these days).

2. I just launched the first edition of my newsletter, “Meant to be.” I’ll continue to tweak it into something I hope will be an anticipated part of my subscribers’ lives and entice new readers to sign up as well.

3. I’m currently soliciting articles from bloggers on happiness for an ebook titled, Perspectives on Happiness to compile and start selling in 2012. I have a longer-term goal as well, that within 5 years, I’ll be doing this gig full-time.

4. I also hope to have opportunities to collaborate with others on a variety of projects. I’m really enjoying connecting with some pretty amazing people online.

There is one other goal I’m considering. I’ve done a lot of public speaking in other contexts and enjoy it. It would be pretty cool to do it in the personal development arena as well.

If you were to speak with someone completely new to personal development and self-help, how would you define happiness?

For me, the kind of happiness I speak of at Meant to be Happy is a state of being, rather than a fleeting emotion.

It’s the sense that life is good, that I like who I am, that there is meaning to my life and that I matter. It’s a state that lasts through periods of pain and difficulty too. It’s the natural result of the way I live and think and interpret life. It’s based on my fundamental beliefs and attitudes and perceptions about myself and others.

So happiness isn’t simply the result of having lots of fun or excitement. Those feelings end when the event that produced them ends. Rather, happiness is an inner sense of fulfilment or joy that permeates life whether or not external circumstances are just what you want them to be.

You say in your ‘About Me’ profile that you decided to ‘scratch the teaching itch’ and become a teacher in 2000. What made you reach that decision?

I was a 10-year veteran in another field working with abused children. I was married with a baby girl. Our little family was starting to grow. I knew that if I didn’t make the career change then, it would likely never happen. So I jumped at it!

If you could do one thing right now to improve your life, anything at all, what would it be?

That’s a good question, Stu. I must say that my life is pretty good. I eat well and work out regularly. I’m in good health. I love my family and they love me. I have a career I love. I think that in the balance, if I may say so, I’m a pretty decent guy as well. I have a rich spiritual and religious life and am grateful for more than I have time or space here to mention. I even have a new passion as a blogger! In a lot of different ways, my life feels deeply meaningful and significant. And really, I’m just a happy camper!

So I guess the one thing that would most improve my life would be to make a good living off blogging so I could do it fulltime. I love teaching passionately, but I’m afraid I’ve found a deeper love.

If you had 20 seconds to say whatever you wanted, and the whole world was listening, what would you say?

Character matters. Who you are at the very core of how you live your life, how you treat others, your integrity to universal principles of human decency matter. There is little in life more important than who you are and become deep inside. So go live a life of kindness and love and compassion and courage. Be humble and forgiving, grateful and honest and good. And in the end, you’ll be well on your way to a life of deep and abiding happiness as well.

Thank you for your time and insights Ken.

 

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spacer Mark January 9, 2012

This is a great interview with an exceptional guest Stu!

Thank you for hosting Ken in the community today – I look forward to reading his blog and connecting with him on the social web : )

Ken, it’s been a pleasure to get a peek into ‘Kens world…’ I’ll be visiting you soon.

Cheers!
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spacer KenWert@MeanttobeHappy January 10, 2012

Wow, thanks Mark!

I think the exceptionalism is in Stu’s ability to make regular folk look real good! I’m just glad that after your peek into my world, you weren’t left too traumatized! spacer

I did see that you dropped by my place and tweeted my latest post. I really appreciate that, Mark. I’ll leave a key under the mat so you can drop by and let yourself in anytime you’d like! spacer

Thanks for commenting here at Stu’s awesome site.

Take care!
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spacer Stu January 10, 2012

Hi Mark,

Glad you liked the interview! Ken is a great example of someone who’s on the rise in the online personal development scene, and having the backing of Steven Aitchinson certainly helps!

Hope you are well my friend spacer

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spacer Ken Wert January 10, 2012

No joke! spacer
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spacer Brad January 9, 2012

Great post Stu, Your questions were great! They helped to bring out a better picture of Ken for me. I read and enjoy both your blogs.

Ken, thanks for sharing your passion and clarity. You speak so well to what I aspire to in my life and blog. Thanks for giving me a role model.

Maybe it’s time for me to step up my game. Do either of you accept guest bloggers? I would love to have the opportunity.

Thanks for sharing,

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spacer Ken Wert January 10, 2012

Hey Brad!

I’m thrilled you enjoy our blogs. I’m a HUGE fan of Stu’s too.

I’m also glad my passion for what I write about shows through how I write it. It’s all very important to me. I’ve spent a life talking about these things in a variety of settings and now that I’m blogging about growth and development, I’m now able to reach people I would have never been able to reach before. To be able to improve a life even if only in some small way is very gratifying.

As for speaking well, I do it for a living. I have been accused of overkill before on several occasions, however! But I appreciate the compliment. I think we’re all role models to those in our spheres of influence. The question we want to always be asking ourselves as a way to gauge the impact we have on others is, “What am I a role model of?” Am I role modeling kindness and patience and decency? Or are we role modeling something much less? That, actually, would make for a great post. Hmmm.

Feel free to contact me by email and we can talk about guest post possibilities.

Thanks so much for the interest and kindness, Brad!
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spacer Stu January 10, 2012

Hi Brad,

I’m happy that you got so much out of the interview! Both Ken and myself enjoy our work, and this shines through in the end products!

Send me a post over if you like, and I’ll consider it for publishing here spacer

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spacer Dalai Lina January 10, 2012

You site looks great, Ken, I just subscribed! Looking forward to reading more.
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spacer Ken Wert January 10, 2012

That’s so awesome, Dalia! Thank you so much. It really means a lot to me. I look forward to writing more for you to read! spacer
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spacer Stu January 10, 2012

Another satisfied subscriber spacer

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spacer Josh Sarz January 10, 2012

Very nice interview with very informative answers, Stuart. Thanks a whole bunch for sharing Ken’s thoughts and insight to us.
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spacer Ken Wert January 10, 2012

Hey there, Josh!

Thanks! So glad you got something out of my ramblings! spacer Stu gave me some really good questions to answer. Made me think. And that’s always a good thing.
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spacer Stu January 10, 2012

If your ramblings are useful and insightful Ken, then they are worthy ramblings indeed spacer

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spacer Ken Wert January 10, 2012

That, then, is the question! Are they useful and insightful. I hope they are! If they’re not, my aim is off! spacer
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spacer Stu January 11, 2012

They certainly are Ken, your aim is straight and true! spacer

spacer Stu January 10, 2012

Hi Josh,

Not a problem – like with Tess’ interview, I tried to make it so that the blogger could reveal as much or as little as they liked. The questions were open-ended with enough room to explore.

Thanks for stopping by spacer

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spacer Jason Fonceca January 10, 2012

Love this, Stu!

I resonate heavily with a lot of what Ken said. He and I feel quite similar. I love ‘success’ (but my definition of success is similar to Ken’s definition of happiness — a joyous state of being.

I’ve been blogging for a long time, but I’m ‘new’ too, I just launched my new brand spacer

I adore ideas, character, and high-value content with substance.

So… what I’m saying is — thank you, thank you for introducing me to someone I resonate with, and looking forward to part 2 of “Taming The Voice” – keep rockin’!
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spacer Ken Wert January 10, 2012

Hi Jason!

That’s great that we resonate! (Hey, that rhymed!)

I LOVE the way you define success. Some people define it so narrowly that, one, it pigeon holes them into pursuing a very narrow vision of what life is supposed to be and, two, it makes failure more likely because of the narrow definition to what it is and what it takes to get it. But life is about family and relationships and human kindness and decency. It’s more about who we become than what we do or how much we acquire. The successful creation of a noble character is so much more important than the successful accumulation of stuff and large balance sheets.

Thanks so much for this, Jason! Keep resonating! spacer
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spacer Jason Fonceca January 11, 2012

We’re definitely on the same page. Success is personal and as deep as a person wants it to be.

What I teach is a blend of both – I definitely LOVE, the successful accumulation of stuff and large balance sheets.

(I especially love your rhyme — I *adore* hiphop… I’ve even been in an awesome music video: youtu.be/_xy-nI9znBs )
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spacer Stu January 11, 2012

Just had to jump in and say that that music video was pretty damn cool Jason spacer

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spacer Jason Fonceca January 11, 2012

Thanks so much Stu!

It was an absolute blast to shoot. I adore all art forms, and acting + performing feels FANTSTIC. My job was to ‘instigate’ and ‘generate anger’, and at the end I really got into it, and at one point Famous choked me in one of the takes lol.

Fortunately I’m just as good at ‘instigating’ success, appreciation and inspiration spacer
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spacer Ken Wert January 11, 2012

Have to wait for later to check out the music video (I’m on a computer right now that blocks Youtube). But I agree with you about a blend of both. My only issue is when success is defined ONLY in financial terms. But looks like we see things very similarly here too.

I won’t likely be in a hiphop (or any other) music video soon, but I have dabbled in poetry in my younger guitar-playing song-writing days.
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spacer Jason Fonceca January 12, 2012

lol, awesome Ken!

Hehe, I love it. And you’re spot on, I’m not super enthused about success defined in purely financial terms, or purely spiritual terms. We live a life filled with both things, and a perceived ‘lack’ in any of them doesn’t really feel like success.

I’ve won poetry contests as well! Our commonalities grow spacer Rock on, man!
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spacer Stu January 10, 2012

Hi Jason,

I’m glad you and Ken have so much in common! I agree with you both as well, that success is not something separate from happiness, but a form of happiness itself, perhaps THE form of happiness.

Take care my friend, good to see you spacer

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spacer Lori Gosselin January 10, 2012

Hey Stu, Hey Ken, Great interview! I’ve been following Ken for some time now and yes, he has GPed at my place spacer It sounds like you’ve got some clear and powerful goals for 2012 Ken.
Nice idea to do the interviews Stu! It’s a good way to meet more quality bloggers, like you two!
Lori
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spacer Stu January 10, 2012

Hi Lori,

Glad you enjoyed the interview – would you be interested in being interviewed? I’d be happy to put together some questions for you spacer

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spacer Lori Gosselin January 11, 2012

Sure Stu! That would be fun!
Lori
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spacer Stu January 11, 2012

Great – I’ll rustle up some questions and get in touch in due course spacer

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spacer Ken Wert January 10, 2012

Hi Lori!

That is so awesome that I have GPed at your place. But, uh, what is GPed? Not sure if I should blush or pat myself on the back or apologize. spacer I actually Google-searched it and found things like “Gas Phase Electron Diffraction” and “Group Product Engineering Division.” I’m guessing neither are correct. But I do seem to remember Al (I think it was) leading a side conversation about gas of another sort at your place a while ago! spacer Anyway, I’m going to go with “Good People Everywhere Decline” and just let you know I’ll try to do better and not decline so openly at your place anymore. spacer

My goals are set and they are also taking so much time from commenting around like I love to do. Sorry I have been absent lately. I’ll find balance soon and get back in the swing of spending more time with you and your amazing community at “Life, for instance” (where, I’ll remind everyone, I have GPed!) spacer
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spacer Stu January 10, 2012

You have a wonderful way with words Ken spacer

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