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And, by extension, Wife’s roommate.
WANT.
It was really weird how they never found his body.
Anyway…
…It often seems there are so many factually wrong claims on the political right that those who make them live in a different reality.
So here’s an idea: Maybe they actually do.
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Chris Mooney: Want to Understand Republicans? First Understand Evolution (via wordishness)
There was a similar article a few years ago which drew attention to Bringing Up Boys: Practical Advice and Encouragement for Those Shaping the Next Generation of Men by James C. Dobson as a similar interpretive “key” for understand conservative Christians and their view of marriage.
(IIRC… I tried to find it but can’t, if anyone knows it, please tell me.)
I guess I have to admit I’m a bit of a slut when it comes to matters of the JavaScript heart.
(Source: tumblr.com)
[inside]: …it occurs to me that I don’t really remember our first night together. But hey, it seems to have worked out, so…
Violets are blue
I like it when
I stick my penis in you."
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So today I invented #FailedValentines
This is the first one. There may be more.
Not exactly sure what the motto/guiding principle would be, but something along the lines of:
“For those times when you couldn’t find the right words, and were accidentally more-truthful-but-less-romantic than you intended to be.”
botanicazilla asked: I love that thing about your thesis advisor. Fuck.
Me too. I’ve probably read it 20 times.
For the past 6+ months I’ve emptied out my email Inbox every night, but I’ve left that one in there so I will keep seeing it.
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Me “between the lines” in an email I just sent to a co-worker and two others she keeps triangulating into her drama vortex.
She came to my office and tried to play the victim — “I hate being in the middle of this!” — despite being the one who: a) created the situation in the first place and b) inserted herself into the situation that she created.
Then she added “I guess I’m not allowed to talk to anyone”. The first time I just ignored it because when someone says something stupid just to get a reaction from you, the most effective way to diffuse it is not to react. When she repeated it, I just said, “That’s not what I’m saying, and you know that’s not what I’m saying.”
I cannot begin to explain how trivially unimportant this issue is, except that she has made it her mission to make it known that she was marginally inconvenienced.
But as I said on Twtr, her overly-dramatic response to being called-out for being overly-dramatic really was more than I could have hoped for. (Seriously, her first words to me were, “I’m just about ready to [quit and] go home.” I suspect that a true practitioner of Bowen Theory would have replied, “If you think you can’t handle your job, that probably is the best decision for you to make” but I didn’t think I could pull it off without coming across like an asshole, so I let it slide.)
My only regret is that no one else was there to witness it, but I’ve thoroughly documented the event to the appropriate person because I’m sure that this will be a story that gets repeated with me as the villain.
Now where did I leave those fucks I’m supposed to give?
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Brilliant Democratic State Senator Tacks ‘Every Sperm is Sacred’ Clause to Oklahoma’s Personhood Bill
Now that is one bill I just can’t get behind.
Ahem.
So to speak.
(by way of Matt Doucette.)
I guess someone has seen my lady poop yogurt tweets:
1:
If “I am at the pizza buffet to get the taste of yogurt out of my mouth” surprises you, I think it’s time we reconsider our relationship.
2:
Well, it took a week on Activia, but my poop is now pink and smells like flowers. Only hard part has been adjusting to the menstrual cramps.
That doesn’t surprise me.
What does surprise me is that this account has 19,417 followers.
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The decision. (via yodelmachine)
Finalfuckingly.
The argument against it was “marriage is about having kids and gay people can’t have kids.”
It’s been over a year since this decision was reached.
Seriously?
Go read the original decision (PDF). I did. The legal argument against marriage equality is laughably poor. Yet here we have had justice delayed for almost two years while it was appealed.
First we had to vote on equal rights for women, then for African-Americans, and now gay/lesbians.
Maybe* it’s time we stop letting the majority vote on whether they want to allow equal rights to the minority, whichever minority that may be.
(via yodelmachine)
Is it acceptable to say that I love my doctoral thesis advisor? Because I really do. (She is also the head of the doctoral program, and one of the reasons I’ve enjoyed it so much is because of her attitude which pervades the entire program.)
I emailed her tonight to say that I had been making progress but not enough to think I’ll be done in time for graduation this year, and how I’m in constant fear that if I miss the deadline again I’ll end up like someone I knew who took firteen years to finish his Ph.D dissertation.
On the other hand, I had lunch today with a good friend who told me I was nuts for trying to get this done while The Wife is in school given that I don’t have any requirement to finish it this year other than “I’d like to.”
This friend is usually very reticent about giving his opinion, which is probably why I’ve thought about his words all day. He said:
Why are you doing this to yourself? Put it aside and do want you have to do to take care of your son and your job while your wife is in school, and then you can focus on your thesis much more easily once she is done.
I shared all these thoughts with my advisor. I emailed her around 7:30 p.m. She emailed me back about three hours later:
My goal is for those who enter the program to complete it to meet the conclusion of their own deep desire. If it takes more time, then it simply does. I say lay aside the anxiety about it and work at it as you are able. It is my experience that it does get done somehow. If it happens you fit it into the timeframe for this year—that is for graduation this June 1, then it will be done, if it spills over and is done this summer, by Aug. 31, it will have been done in this academic year. If not, then it will be done within the next year 2012-2013.
In other words, keep at it, without anxiety. There are enough reasons always for what stands in the way. Some more pronounced than others…those who finish will be those who keep at it. I doubt it takes 15 years. It may take six or nine more months…it may come together sooner.
Breathe, meditate, walk in the moonlight, recognize what is is, and trust the Spirit.
Can you even imagine a more balanced message of “keep at it, but don’t stress out over it, and you’ll be done when you are done”? Because I can’t.
I may print this out and put it under my pillow.
I wish I could tattoo the last paragraph on the inside of my eyelids.
lindstifa replied to your post: “The day that productivity forgot.”
YOUARETIRE?
I am all the tire.
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