Guest Post: “Cool Like That”
It’s my pleasure to host one of my dearest blog friends, Alise Wright, editor of Not Alone: Stories of Living with Depression and blogger at Alise…Write! In the year or so I’ve known her, she’s taught me so much about blogging generously and boldly; she’s encouraged me loudly; and she’s shared with me a few hurts and lots more laughter. And at the risk of appearing to have missed the whole point of her guest post, I must assure you: Alise is cool in the very most important ways. –Tamara
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I write a primarily Christian blog. Most of what I write about ties back into my faith. But truth be told, my faith isn’t always completely orthodox. My brain has some big questions and my mouth has a small filter. And sometimes when I write about my faith-related questions, my atheist friends don’t hate it. In fact, they’ve been known to say that some of what I have to say is reasonable, even admirable.
When this happens, some of my fellow Christians will claim that this reaction from those outside of the faith only proves that my goal is to show how hip and with it I am rather than to spread the gospel. Because if there’s one thing we know about good news it’s that it pisses people off and leaves them feeling alienated. If what I’m saying about Jesus makes someone think that he might like them right where they’re at, then clearly it’s not the right Messiah.
Of course, one need only spend a little bit of time with me to realize that promoting my coolness is my sole motivation in life. I offer the following as proof:
- I have a teen-aged daughter. Everyone knows that a 13-year-old child considers her parents the very height of hip and will constantly extol the awesomeness of said parents to anyone who will listen.
- I play in a wedding band. We play Neil Diamond. And Kenny Loggins.
- I dye my hair. Sometimes I’m so amazingly cool that I leave a stripe of grey down the middle, like war paint. Ya’ know, for street cred.
Image is everything with me, from my dented up minivan to the Crocs I’m wearing because I couldn’t find my real shoes under the avalanche of school papers I still haven’t put in the recycling bin.
From what I can gather in my reading the Scriptures, Jesus was also very into promoting his image. He had quite the little following of prostitutes, tax collectors and foul-mouthed riff-raff. He spoke of “loving your neighbor as yourself” and “turning the other cheek” in an eye-for-an-eye world, making him popular among folks who were marginalized and neglected and cast away, who, as we all know, are the real movers and shakers.
Now that I look at it, maybe Jesus wasn’t going for cool. And maybe that means that I’m not that cool either.
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Alise is married to her best friend and is the mom to four incredible kids. She loves knitting, writing, playing keyboards in a cover band, and eating soup.
She also loves making new friends and you can connect with her on Twitter, Facebook or at her blog.
56 Responses to Guest Post: “Cool Like That”
Alise, this is fun and pokes a little at all who wear the title Christian (whether proudly or shamefully)…
I’m a firm believer that we don’t need to take ourselves too seriously. Odds are good we’re getting SOMETHING wrong, so we can probably chill out some.
You almost lost me with Neil Diamond, but the Kenny Loggins thing redeemed you.
I definitely don’t qualify as cool. It’s amazing that someone as cool as Tamara lets me hang around her and her guests. I hear Jesus still loves me though!
Well, to be fair, we do Sweet Caroline auto-tuned, and it is probably one of our most popular songs every time!
And I am decidedly not cool. But decidedly loved by Jesus. Which is better than being cool.
… and being loved by Jesus is *totally* cool
Honestly, I think “cool” is subjective at best and bullshit at worst. I’m grateful for you, Carolyn, and everyone who visits here. xo
“When this happens, some of my fellow Christians will claim that this reaction from those outside of the faith only proves that my goal is to show how hip and with it I am rather than to spread the gospel.”
I struggle with this. Not that I’m claiming to be hip or cool but I know that when my own filter is on the fritz (which it often is) and I say something that makes my aetheist friends think and my Christian friends want to stone me for heresy (I do not believe that a gay man is the equivalent to a pedophile no matter what the largest Baptist church in town preaches), I think, crap, am I hearing and speaking what God would have me say or am I saying it so I won’t be shunned. I think back to the whole new commandment to love one another and then that other idea that I shouldn’t be judging since I, shocker, am not God, and think, okay I must not be too wrong, I hope.
Exactly. It’s a tough one to suss out sometimes, but “you’re just trying to be relevant/cool/liked/whatever” seems to be the new go-to line when someone doesn’t believe exactly the right thing. I’m just not buying it any more.
I’m so grateful for how Jesus loves the foul-mouthed riff-raff. Thank you, Alise, for this great reminder.
Thanks so much for having me (and for your super kind intro). That whole “chief of sinners” thing resonates pretty strongly with me.
I’m Jewish, but my S.O. is Christian. One night a few weeks ago, I couldn’t sleep and looked up Jesus’s teachings. I kept awakening my S.O. and asking him, “Whoa, did you know Jesus said [x]? And [y]? And, holy wow, he said [abc that was pretty freakin' unambigious about loving everyone]?”
“Yes, sweetie, I knew that. I’m a Christian,” was his answer
I actually keep meaning to pick up a New Testament, preferably the kind with Jesus’s words in red. I know I read all of this when I was little, but I love anybody whose message is that we should love others more and judge them less.
Awesome.
Alise (and Tamara!) … I see you as being as cool as Jesus was… and that’s a good place to be.
Continue with the coolness!
Thanks Janet! I know I fall short of being like Jesus in lots of ways, but I really hope that what drives my life is a desire to be like him.
Aw, thanks, Janet.
hah! this is great!
Thanks so much for stopping by Sarah!
I love Neil Diamond and am vaguely put off by the implication that he is not cool. Did you see him in “The Last Waltz?” If I ever get ready I hope I remember to request “Sweet Caroline” with auto-tune. That sounds amazing.
Well, he’s like anti-cool, which probably makes him cool.
Some day I hope to get a recording of our version of Sweet Caroline because it really is the most fun. Happy accident when our vocalist forgot to turn off the auto-tune after a Lady Gaga song and then we went into Sweet Caroline. Made it like a million times more awesome (and that song is already super fun).
I WANT TO HEAR THIS.
We’ll have a few dates this summer at a bar on a lake in Deep Creek, MD. The bar has a giant gorilla on the roof that spits water at people periodically. I’m pretty sure they serve PBR there. Our house is altogether too small to house 7 more people, but I’m sure we could make it work. ;-D
I’m about as hopelessly not cool as one can get. High school band geek. Math major/actuary/statistician. Don’t those get automatic lifetime memberships in dorktown? (the opposite of Knox’s Awesometown.)
When I was younger, I alternated between caring about whether people thought I was cool and resenting them for basing their opinion of cool on totally stupid stuff. Now, I don’t care so much….. (Well, I pretend not to care so much anyway….
The coolest thing about Jesus? He saw people as they were whether they had a tarnished image or a shiny facade, and he cut through the crap and dealt with the real person underneath. I wish I was better at that, more conscientious to look underneath the exterior.
Great post, Alise. I agree with Tamara’s assessment — you are very cool in what matters most. And Tamara, it goes without saying for you…..
I think I’ve always cared if people think I’m cool or not, but I’ve also tried really hard not to let it affect how I behave. There was a season when I did, and those were some dark times.
I think we all sometimes miss the underneath of people. Sometimes because we’re not looking and sometimes because people are really good at keeping it hidden. I hope that I at least look authenticity in the people closest to me. That’s a start, anyway.
Thanks for your kind words!
Oh, you.
“He saw people as they were whether they had a tarnished image or a shiny facade, and he cut through the crap and dealt with the real person underneath.” I love this about Jesus so much. I love this Jesus so much.
I stopped trying to be cool after I had my babies.
And then I realized I had never been cool to begin with, despite all my efforts.
It didn’t smart as much as I thought it would. I’m much more comfortable now.
Also, there are all kinds of cool. “David Beckham cool” is not the same as “Stephen Hawking cool.” Etc.
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