So many times over the past few years, I have felt the gentle nudge from God to "be still". I am a Type-A personality, for the most part. I want to have things planned. I want to be going and moving. I want to have my day, week, month and year in-order. I make lists and get things done.



Waiting isn't something that comes naturally to me. If something needs to be accomplished, I will find the way.

Social media and keeping up with other bloggers, writers and change-makers can have us on a tireless effort to measure up.

In my effort to please the planning side and the ever increasing nudges to be still... here is a list!


~ Be still and enjoy the beautiful world in which our creator has given us.

~ Be still at the end of the day and listen to my husband talk about his day.

~ Be still and watch my children play.

~ Be still and listen to stories and wisdom from my elders.

~ Be still and listen to friends who are needing a shoulder.

~ Be still and take time in prayer.

~ Be still and know that He provides for the birds, and He will take care of me.

~ Be still and hold my children.

~ Be still and read scripture.

~ Be still and spend time in devotion.

~ Be still and allow God to take carry my burdens and hurt.

Within the past week, I have come across a couple blog posts and a few friends discussing an ex showing up in their social media life.

{If you happen to know which blog posts I'm talking about, please post it in the comments section! I can't remember where I've seen them.}

The blog posts were reminding everyone how easy it can be to fall into inappropriate conversations with a former boyfriend/girlfriend... and reminding you that they are only portraying their 'good' side, probably. While you are living with your spouse and get to see every side of them.

Social media is such a fast and effortless way of connecting with people. Sometimes much too fast and much too easy. We may quickly connect with someone online that we wouldn't approach in our day to day life. We may say things or behave in social media in a way that is opposite to our normal behavior.

As in any other situation, your marriage must be safe guarded in social media.

Complaining about your spouse and putting them down via Twitter, Facebook, your blog, etc... is an invitation to {anyone really} your ex to step into an inappropriate role in your life.

When I first created a Facebook account, I noticed a few couples had joint accounts. The couples I saw doing this had some known issues, and I disliked the distrust it seemed to portray by having a joint account.

Gaining a better perspective on the issue, it actually seems like a good idea. I'm not suggesting every couple merge into one social media account. I will also not be combining my account with that of my husband's... though we know each others passwords and could access if ever needed.  However it's not a bad idea, if you want to add an extra safe-guard to your marriage.

Today, a friend updated her status on Facebook -- talking about an ex who had just tried to friend her. His friend request came with a lot of flattery and inappropriate comments. She reportedly blocked him immediately.

Sometimes that may not be so easily accomplished. Maybe we are in the middle of a fight with our spouse. Maybe we have been going through a rough time in our marriage and feel hurt and neglected. A message like that may seem very flattering. However, when the sender knows your marital status... and sends the messages anyway, they are looking to make themselves feel good and not you. It's best to walk away. 



A previous post of mine on A Bloggy Mom about marriage and social media:

Social Media and Your Blast from the Past