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How to handle seeing your EX with poise & confidence…

Sure, the thought of seeing Mr. Wrong at this very second makes you a little sick to your stomach. That’s ok, you’re human. And, you may actually be one of the few women who never ever has to see him again in your entire life… but, I hate to say, that’s probably not the case.

So, instead of dreading it or avoiding the possibility or choosing not to be prepared, think again. but before you even think again, watch this:

Listen, you’re creating a brilliant new future for yourself. BUT ~ you have to keep in mind that your past might just creep in to your lovely new plan every once in a while. Don’t sweat it.

The goal is to recognize that this person had a big role in your life at one point, but now he doesn’t. Whether the breakup was your fault or his, whether you really want to punch him in the face, ignore him completely or beg for forgiveness, you have to realize that how you act is completely up to you. You can forgive him. You can move on. You can stop torturing yourself with what if. You can do anything you choose.

The conclusion? You have the power to be a total bombshell when you see him. So, what’s your plan?

xx

Ellie

It’s Music Monday… Let’s Get Stronger

Know what?  It’s been a while since we played a straight-up pop anthem for a Music Monday.  So this week, look at little Kelly Clarkson, all grown up… and check out this awesome first verse:

You know, the bed feels warmer sleeping here alone

You know, I dream in color and do the things I want

You think you got the best of me, think you’ve had the last laugh

Betcha think that everything good is gone

You think you left me broken down, think that I’d come running back

Baby you don’t know me ’cause you’re dead wrong

xx,

Ellie

Fresh Off a Breakup? 3 Things to Do Right Now

We’ve all been there. Dwelling on what could have been instead of moving forward. Feeling stuck and a little bit lost. Not sure exactly who we are any more without that other person in our lives. Take a deep breath. Here are three things you can do right this moment if you’ve just ended a relationship.

{detach & triage}

The most difficult part of a breakup can be, very simply, accepting the fact that it’s over. The most important things you can do? Remove temptation by deleting him from your phone, email and social networks; you’ll thank yourself later when you realize how much you sped up the healing process by refusing to stalk him or reminisce endlessly. Instead, surround yourself with a support network: delegate two friends you’ll call, email, text, or IM when you want to connect with him.  Let your friends help.  It’s what they’re there for.

{select your symbol}

Even though breakups can be incredibly challenging, there’s something about a split that can actually bring out the best in us.  We show the world what we’re made of when we get knocked down and somehow manage to rise back up again… so select a symbol of your strength and keep it in a place where it constantly reminds you what you’re capable of. It can be a meaningful piece of jewelry handed down for generations or a simple fortune cookie slip.  Let it be your anchor when you’re having a moment and need help remembering that you’re going to make it through to the other side, stronger and wiser than ever before.

{hit the reset button}

The period after a breakup is the perfect time for redefinition, and switching up our routines can actually help us move forward in more ways than one.  Scent is the sense most closely linked to memory, so toss your old perfume or body wash and replace it with something delicious that you’ve never worn before.  Make a playlist of songs that make you smile and have nothing to do with your old relationship whatsoever.  Rearrange the furniture in your home, indulge in a new set of sheets and add little touches to refresh your nest.  If you know you’ll run into your ex at the Starbucks around the corner, start buying your lattes elsewhere.  Pick up a new book, workout routine, hobby or volunteer opportunity. Do it now, before you get used to having time on your hands that you used to spend with him. Instead of filling the emptiness with sorrow, fill it with something awesome.

xx

Ellie

it’s music monday: you finally made me happy… when you walked out that door

Macy Gray seems like she’s been hiding out for a while, but this song hits the nail on the head when it comes to the relief that can (sometimes unexpectedly) go hand-in-hand with heartbreak.  It’s a funny paradox, isn’t it?  It hurts, but there can also be a feeling of freedom.  Check out Macy’s take:

PK2U,

Ellie

Bettyville: where every betty can be a bombshell

Not feeling like a bombshell with Valentine’s Day right around the corner? Hey, pick that gorgeous head up and join the club. Literally… join Bettyville & snap out of it, right now.

Wanna know what we’re up to at the moment? Here’s a peek:

If you’re in need of a breakup bible, I’ve got just the thing. Check out  It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-up Buddy by Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt.

This book seriously helped me gain perspective during my last break-up and I know I’m not alone in saying that. It’s funny, smart and honest.

Don’t just think about reading it… start right this second. Need a little motivation? No problem! It’s our first book we’ll be discussing as a group in the Bombshell Book Club (one of six lovely groups in Bettyville). I’ll be leading a chat about it online coming up on February 13th, so instead of being glum about not having plans or torturing yourself on whether or not to text your ex, come hang with us and get focused on appreciating your amazing little life just as it is.

Come play!

xx

Ellie

Words to Live By…

Always. Plain and simple.

xx

Ellie

it’s music monday with the soldier thread!

Every once in a while, I’ve gotta throw some love to Austin, Texas — home of PKHQ.  Here’s an awesome crowd-sourced video for a spot-on song called “Anybody” by a local band called The Soldier Thread… enjoy!

PK2U,

Ellie

Attagirl Series: Go on, hit the refresh button!

PKTV: getting ready for my Close Up in Dallas…

A few weeks ago, I had the treat of going to Dallas for the first time and staying in a lovely boutique hotel to get my beauty rest before appearing on the Dallas CW show Close Up. I decided to stay in that night & spend some cherished alone time just pondering life and all of the wild adventures I’ve been on since leaving news…

I thought about what had scared me the most about leaving the only profession I ever knew and what I’ve learned since then. I decided to write myself some advice, to the girl who didn’t know any better from the girl who’s still learning every day. Here are three little tidbits from my journal:

~ don’t give up! ~ Starting a business in a completely new field is going to be, without a doubt, the hardest thing you’ve ever done. Period. You’re going to have to learn to be flexible with your vision and logical in all of your decision-making, even when you’re emotional. There are times when you’re going to wonder why the hell you took the giant leap. It’s okay to be human and to ask yourself questions. There are days you’re going to want to give up. Don’t. Remember your passion of helping women create better lives for themselves. Remember your dream of inspiring ladies everywhere to be bombshells. Stay focused.

~ trust your gut ~ There are going to be A LOT of people who tell you how you “should” be building your community, developing your products, & running your team… or how you shouldn’t be wearing pink high heels if you want to be taken seriously or letting your curly hair be liberated or try to create something that’s never been done before, because people won’t understand it. Don’t listen to all the riffraff. Sure, sometimes you’ll get valuable feedback and it’ll be part of the learning process, but just because people say they’ve got more experience doesn’t mean they’re right. Especially when it comes to your vision. Be wise about what advice you take and learn to trust yourself when it comes to the big stuff. Your gut will be your best guide…

~keep challenging yourself~ It’s not enough for you to create a couple of unique tools for women getting over heartbreak. You want more, you just don’t know it yet. Once you’ve got the Betty Plan created and firmly in place, the text messages sending pick-me-ups and the kiss-him-goodbye burning his photos, you’re going to hear a little voice within telling you to create more. Do it. After all, you have a mission. You want to build bombshells. To do that, you’ll want to connect your bombshells-in-training with other women just like them. You’ll want to create a newsletter to keep them in the loop. You’ll start creating videos with valuable advice. Two years from now, you’ll realize your mission is actually very clear: you want to start a bombshell revolution. Don’t hesitate to take on the challenge.

The next morning, I went to the TV station and met three incredible ladies in the lobby. We all inspired each other with our stories of triumph and our big dreams… and I realized I was more focused than ever on my goals. A few minutes later, I was being interviewed by an incredible host.

Check out the interview!

I have to say, it was one of my favorite media trips I’ve taken. I came back to Austin with clarity and determination. When I watched it again, the q & a wasn’t what made me so thrilled with the trip. It was recognizing that  my journey was just beginning. It was taking some time to reflect without judgement and recognize that the lessons I’ve learned won’t just be great for my business, they’re essential lessons for any girl on a mission to live life as a bombshell.

xx

Ellie

it’s music monday with the veronicas

Love these two:

PK2U,

Ellie