About Me

“Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead”

Someone Like You – Adele

PJ, Snowman and Daddy

Thanks for taking the time to read this page. It might seem like a lot of text but please do stick with it and you will learn a lot not just about me but why I have started a website about how to save a relationship.

My name is Stuart and that’s me right there in the picture. The little boy on the left is my adorable son Preston (Who I also call PJ). Unfortunately our friend in the middle is no longer with us!

I created this website after I went through a pretty rough relationship break up and on this page I am going to be brutally honest and truthful as I tell you my own story.

Let me start off by saying that I am not a relationship expert and don’t consider myself to be one. If you were hoping that I was going to say I am a voodoo love doctor with a secret love potion I am afraid you are in the wrong place.

I am just a normal guy that last year went through a pretty terrible relationship break up. What I am going to write here will briefly cover what happened, what I learned and why it matters to me that I help you to save your relationship.

If this sounds like something that you would be interested in then please feel free to read on…

Saving a Relationship – My Story

It might sound like a cliché but when I met my partner I really was not looking to meet someone. I had just secured a new job and had a few weeks before I needed to relocate so I decided to use the time to go back and visit my family. So as you can see… I really was not looking to meet somebody!

Preston Sleeping on Dadddy

I will never forget the first time I saw her! I knew in that very instant that I would not be taking the new job and moving to London and I never did. After two years the renovation of our house was complete and nine months later my now fiancée gave birth to our beautiful son.

At this time my world was amazing, I had my queen, my castle and a little prince!

Around two more years passed and this is when the first cracks started to appear. I won’t say I didn’t see the signs – because I did. What I didn’t do was accept or deal with them. I just stuck my head in the sand and tried to carry on. There is so much I could say; we lost sight of each other, we took things for granted, we grew apart. What I do know is I never thought we would break up.

I’ll also never forget the day when I finally realised my relationship was over. I remember looking around the house, a part of me was in everything. I also remember how painful it was saying goodbye to my son and kissing him on his head before I left.

What followed was six months of living hell.

I tried so many things to save my relationship but what I didn’t realise at the time was these were all the wrong things and the situation just went from bad to worse. Eventually there is a point that you reach when something is just too broken to fix. I hate to say that but it’s true. What really causes me the most pain is how I reached that point and how I only found out what I should have done when it was too late.

I eventually found a proven system and as soon as I started I could see where I had been going wrong. If I had known this stuff earlier I know I could have easily saved my relationship, I have absolutely no doubt. You know what they say about hindsight – it really is “a beautiful thing”!

I said at the  beginning of this page that I would be brutally honest and truthful with you. It would have been easy on this page to tell you that I learned what I should do and then I saved my relationship, what a wonderful story that would be. A happy forever after, the stuff dreams are made of.

But here’s the reality, I am telling you that I did not save my relationship and that’s the truth!

If I have learned one thing from this experience it is to be truthful to yourself and to others. I did not manage to save my relationship because all the things I did were the wrong things and these just made matters worse, much worse.  I did eventually learn all the things you should do if you truly want to save your relationship or marriage but for me it really was too late.

This is where I really want to be able to help you because I’m sure that where you are right now is exactly where I have been and I really would not want anyone to go through what I have. I know about the pain and the endless  questions without answers. I know the feeling of heartbreak is with you from the moment you wake up until the moment you fall asleep.

Is there a happy forever after?

Well just before we get to that I want to mention that when I talk about a relationship, I don’t just talk about it in the sense of my ex partner. I also talk about it considering my son. He is a wonderful little boy who’s a perfect balance of myself and my ex partner. Once I had worked out where I had been going wrong two things dawned on me:

1. At the time all this was affecting my son, consciously, sub consciously, emotionally and physically
2. If the situation carried on getting worse, I would have lost the relationship I had with him too

Preston helping Daddy make Snowy the Snowman

What I am really proud of is that I still used what I had learned and I still use these very same principles to this day. Essentially it is these principles that saved the relationship I have with my son. In addition the situation with my ex partner is now much better than it was. After finding the right answers I knew it was too late to save my relationship with my ex partner but I was damn sure I was not going to lose the relationship I had with my son too.

I am now in a new relationship and have found happiness again. I have learned from my mistakes the hard way. relationships take hard work and are a fine balance of give and take. I use what I have learned to this very day and I know that I am now far better equipped to deal with problems if they arise in the future.

A few thank you’s from the bottom of my heart

I wanted to extend a massive thank you to all the people who take the time to put information on the Internet about how to save a relationship because a relationship break up extends way beyond just two people. I also want to say my biggest thank you to Ashley Kay and T.W. Jackson, every time I see my son and we go to the park or the beach I think of you guys because it would not have been possible without your help. I also wanted to thank you once again for taking the time to read this page, it really does mean a hell of a lot to me.

Take care and good luck on your journey,

Stuart
(Founder and creator of the website : Saving a Relationship)

Updates

A few months ago my ex partner would have nothing to do with me in any way. Things had got that bad that my Dad actually stepped in and offered to collect and return my son for his visits. Due to the materials I have been using, I have come a long way in this time.

Today my ex partner called me up and we chatted for a while about our son. During our call we have agreed to go to his school together and talk with his teacher about what will happen when he goes from nursery to full time later this year. Three months ago you could not have put us in the same street together never mind the same room! This might seem like a small thing to some people but my son and his education mean the world to me. Being asked to go along and be part of that meeting  is a huge sign that what I am doing now are the right things for everybody. This stuff has worked wonders for me and I really hope it can do the same for you too.