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Hi, I'm Laurie Neverman, the Common Sense Woman.
I'm a mathematician and engineer by training; a mother, educator and writer by vocation. I dig gardening, herbalism, natural healing, self-sufficiency, cooking, fermenting, food preservation, renewable energy, ancient history, science fiction, the LOTR trilogy (best movies ever!) and I never want to stop learning.
I'm lucky enough to be married to my best friend, August. I try each day to learn something new and keep up with my two boys, who make life perpetually interesting. We have been very blessed.
We homeschool and homestead on 35 acres in the country, where we built our green dream home in 2005. Like many people, we went through some ups and downs when the economy tanked. My husband is now working two hours away, and I say a little prayer each day that he can find a job closer to home soon.
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Love is About Patience, Humor and Shared Dreams
What is Love About?
If we were to believe Hollywood and fairy tales, love is about some woman with long flowing hair being swept off her feet by her Prince Charming. Lately the Hollywood version seems to often skip spiritual love altogether, simply focusing on sex, or we get the sitcom version with the hapless, incompetent male being dominated by the wife who does everything. Is it any wonder that half of marriages end in divorce if folks really think this is the way “love” should be?
I’m not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but I do happen to be happily married to my best friend, August. We’re been together for over 17 years, and been friends for over 20, so I believe we’re doing something right. In the interest of bringing a little reality to the Valentine hype, I decided to share our story.
A Chance Meeting
Back in 1988 (boy, am I feeling dated), I was a freshman in college at UW Superior. I had a full course load in preparation for finishing my math/physics degree in four years, and was lifting weights like a mad woman. (For a brief time, I entertained thoughts of getting into bodybuilding. I used to love pumping iron.)
One Saturday afternoon, a friend dragged me to an intramural volleyball game. We happened to end up on a team with some upper classmen, including one dark haired guy who didn’t say much but seemed nice. When the game was over, I asked the dark haired guy if he would mind picking up my friend and I some wine coolers. (Yes, I was young and foolish and underage.) He didn’t say a word, just gave me a look that said, “Why on earth would you ask me such a thing?” (I found out later that he we not much of drinker – still isn’t – and for some reason was not used to getting odd requests from strange women. Imagine that.) Not exactly a “romantic” introduction to the love of your life.
A Promise That Was Kept
As the years passed, we ended up meeting each other again. We both enjoyed RPGs (role playing games) such as Dungeons and Dragons and Shadowrun. (Yes, I am a geek.) We’d hang out together in Ed’s Bar and Cinema (another friend’s dorm room that he had converted into a movie lounge) or watching Star Trek in the regular dorm lounge. I asked a mutual friend to tell me more about August, and he said that he (August) was the most generous person he knew, that he would give someone the shirt off his back if they needed it. That sounded like a good recommendation to me.
One night I was in the computer lab, working on a project for Economics class, and I just could not get the spreadsheet program to generate the grafts I needed. (This was back in the day of DOS programs and dot matrix printers, mind you.) August was working in the lab as tech support. He helped me figure out the problem, and then walked me back to the dorms when the lab closed (it was around midnight, if I remember correctly).
It was cold and dark that night, and I was overtired and rambling on as we walked between buildings. I asked what I could possibly give him to repay him for his help. He said over the years people had promised him money, cars, and all sorts of things, but no one had ever delivered. I joked that perhaps I should promise him my first born child, like in Rumpelstiltskin. Years later, we still laugh about how I was the only one who delivered on their promise – literally and figuratively.
A Long Distance Relationship
We finally started dating the summer before my senior year. I was as school acting as young camp counselor and teaching statistics, and August was in the area on active duty for the Air Force National Guard.
In late summer, I was helping another friend paint a house next door to some people he knew. After we were done painting, he stepped into their yard to visit. They had a dog that was known biter, so I followed cautiously. I slowly extended my left hand towards the dog, to let it get my scent. It let me get just close enough that it could reach at the end its chain and clamped on to my arm. No bark, no growl, just lunge and bite. The “friend” dropped me off at the dorms and didn’t check back until days later. (Side note: The dogs owners dismissed the dog’s behavior – until it eventually mauled one of their grandkids. If you’ve got a dog that’s a biter, you need to either get it trained – now – or have it put down.)
Anyway, August came to visit after he got off duty, and found me in my room crying with my arm swelling up like a balloon. Even though we were only dating at this point, he insisted on taking me to the ER for proper care and a tetanus shot, get me something to eat, and helped me pay for the visit. Real friends (and real men) are there when you need them.
When the fall semester began, he went back to the Green Bay area to get full time job while I finished my undergraduate work. We saw each other once a month when he would come up for guard duty. He helped me cover expenses my final semester of undergraduate schooling so that I could focus on my course work instead of getting another job when my work study money/other savings ran out. (I worked as a nude art model my junior year – highest paying job on work study, but really cold!)
When I started my graduate studies in Mechanical Engineering down at UW Madison, August left the National Guard and would come to visit me in Madison instead. We logged a lot of phone time that year and a half. Video chat wasn’t available back then.
Continued tomorrow…20 years is a lot to cover in one post.
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Never Bake Brownies from a Box Again
When I was first married (17 years ago), brownies were one of the things I baked using a box mix. I had tried several recipes, and could never get that crisp edged/soft center combo that makes brownies oh-so-good. Then I found this recipe. I have not purchased a box mix since. You can make them with or without nuts, or half and half. The recipe is so simple that the boys can make it on their own. I hope you enjoy it, so you, too, never make brownies from a box again.
Easy Chocolate Brownie Recipe
Adapted from Hershey’s Chocolate and Cocoa Cookbook
Ingredients
- 1 cup granulated sugar
- 1/2 cup butter, softened
- 1/2 teaspoon vanilla
- 2 eggs
- 1/2 cup unsifted all-purpose flour, unbleached, unbromated
- 1/3 cup cocoa, preferably organic
- 1/4 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/4 teaspoon salt
- 1/2 cup chopped nuts, optional
Directions: In a medium bowl, cream together butter and sugar. Add eggs and vanilla, blend until smooth. In a separate bowl, sift together dry ingredients. Gradually blend dry ingredients into sugar mixture, stirring until just blended. Do not overmix. Nuts may be added at this time, or sprinkled over some or all of the batter in the pan just prior to baking.
Spread batter evenly in a greased 8 inch square baking pan, or an 8 inch round or heart shaped pan. I usually use my 8 inch pyrex baking dish, or double the batch and use a 9×13 pyrex baking dish. I’ve taken to sprinkling the nuts on half of the batter because my husband likes them but my boys don’t, so that way they can each grab what they prefer easily.
Bake metal pans 30-35 minutes at 350 degrees F, glass pans 30-35 minutes at 335 degrees, until edges are set. Center will be soft but will firm up at the brownies cool.
If you want to get a little fancy for Valentine’s Day (or other special occasion), you can bake in a 9-Inch Heart Pan and use some simple stencils with powdered sugar. I cut stencils out of some scrap paper and set them on the brownie.
I used my The Pampered Chef Flour/Sugar Shaker to sprinkle the top with powdered sugar (a sifter would work, too), and then removed the stencils. If sugar creeps in under the stencils, you can remove it by gently dabbing at the excess with a damp fingertip. Isn’t it sweet?
The boys couldn’t wait until daddy got home to sample it, but they did only cut off one edge so he got to see the letters.
If you’re looking for a recipe for gluten free, egg free brownies, you may want to check out this one at The Spunky Coconut. I haven’t tried it yet, but I’ve liked the other recipes I’ve tried from the site. If you’d like to try sourdough brownies, this recipe looks promising.
Let me know if you give these a try.
This post has been added to the Chocolate Love Blog Hop at That Skinny Chick Can Bake.
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Living Well Blog Hop #28
Welcome to the Living Well blog hop! We’d like to invite you to share a blog post about what you do to Live Well. It could be a healthy recipe, exercise tips, ideas for relaxing, getting organized, lifestyle improvements – anything that you feel makes your life better.
Your Living Well hosts for the week are:
Laurie @ Common Sense Homesteading
Jo @ Jo’s Health Corner
Tina @ Being Made New
Lea @ Nourishing Treasures
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