Dealing with Death At Home
Dealing with death was the most difficult thing I have ever had to do, in my entire life. I never expected myself to face loss of a loved one; even though I knew very well that death is a part of life. However, I somehow believed I would be an exception and my loved ones would always exist in this world. But death got me too. I was left confused, angry and sad. I had never faced extreme emotions, but when I lost my loved one I found myself in extreme moods. I also had this useless and helpless feeling with me. Once I began to notice a change in myself, I began to make an effort and decided to deal with the loss. Here, I will discuss some of the acts that I did to help myself.
Initially when I heard about the death, I decided to keep my mind away from thinking about it. I engaged myself in different activities at work or with my friends, anything which prevented me for thinking about the loss, I did. I did this, to strengthen myself emotionally. My mind was trying very hard to control my heart. I knew if I let the bad thoughts take over my emotions, I would end up experiencing an emotional breakdown. Therefore, I diverted my attention on to other aspects because I was not ready for any social interaction and thus stayed busy all day. With the passage of time, I began to realize that I was becoming stronger and accepting the loss. Then I began to seek support and advice from my friends. I often, ended up having hour’s worth of conversations about my inner feelings with my friends. This helped to me lighten my emotional pain. After sharing, I felt more relieved and accepted the loss to a certain extent.
Once I had realized my loss, I began a tribute in the memory of my loved one. I had lost my loved one to cancer, so I arranged a charity concert to support other cancer victims. I never wanted anyone to go through what I did, so I helped raise funds. When I ran a successful tribute, I felt as if I had made a difference for my loved one. I do not feel, helpless and useless anymore. The tribute made me accept death as a process of life. And lastly, I turned to my religion. This helped me answers several questions regarding death and loss. After this, I finally accepted the loss and decided to move with my life. My faith made me realize that death is evitable and it’s a change that we all have to deal with.
This is how I managed my loss; it does not mean that everyone will have to do the above acts to deal with death. Dealing with death for everyone is different and no one way is ever correct. I’ll suggest that we should get help as soon as we feel ourselves slipping away due to a loss, or it can hurt your entire life.